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Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
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Chapter 4 Summary: “People Are Hard to Hate Close Up. Move In.”
In a cultural climate dominated by divisive politics and unrelenting media coverage, conversations have veered away from civility, truth, accountability, and authentic identity. At the same time, on the micro level, individuals who maintain a sense of true belonging remain “zoomed in” to the world, advocate their truth, and most importantly, form “opinions of people based on their actual, in-person experiences” (64).
Brown presents three hypothetical examples of how corrosive political rhetoric can be countered by personal experience. She argues that pain diminishes “only when we acknowledge it and care for it” (66-67). When pain leads to anger and is not transformed into a life-affirming emotion or action, it will make people “exhausted and sick” (67). When pain is ignored, it becomes “fear or hate”; when it is never transformed, it becomes “resentment and bitterness” (69).
While enacting true belonging requires people to move closer and (re)build relationships, as Brown’s research shows, boundaries become necessary when it comes to safety. While physical safety is an essential condition for practicing true belonging, emotional safety is equally necessary to protect people from dehumanizing language that creates “an enemy image” that allows for “moral exclusion” (72, 73). In historical cases, targeted groups who were excluded “from equal moral treatment” became targets for dehumanizing acts (73). As a result, Brown argues that dehumanizing language originating from any side of the political spectrum must not be tolerated under any condition. While taking nuanced stances can open individuals to “harsh consequences,” protecting the “basic human dignity of individuals” only happens when a person “steps outside their bunker and speaks their truth” (78).
Brown includes excerpts from an interview with leadership professor Dr. Michelle Buck to highlight conflict management strategies that focus on developing and deepening mutual understanding. In cases of conflict, all parties must 1) make an effort to understand “underlying intentions,” 2) shift the discussion to the present, and 3) “focus on the future” (80, 81). When aiming for conflict transformation, individuals who successfully engage in perspective-taking will also successfully allow for “greater connection, whether or not there is agreement” (82).
The chapter ends with excerpted interview responses from the actor Viola Davis. In her conversation with Brown, Davis shares experiences of speaking her truth and embracing love, intimacy, and vulnerability.
Chapter 4 Analysis
The first element of true belonging practice focuses on participants who remained “zoomed in” to their own personal experiences (64). In the three examples that illustrate the gap between political rhetoric and lived experience, Brown shows that having personal experiences with other people expands one’s capacity to counter political rhetoric. However, a dearth of encounters with others disrupts our capacity to challenge stereotypical narratives. Furthermore, in times of uncertainty and fear, anger provides fast and reliable access to feelings of control and power, which counter feelings of helplessness.
According to Brown, it is natural to feel anger; the problem is when people are shamed for feeling anger or when anger is never released. In either case, joy is taken away, and anger makes us “less effective in our attempts to create change and forge connection” (68). As she points out, attempts to “hold on to […] sweet, self-righteous rage” do not make pain go away (66). Indeed, it is when pain is allowed and we accept we are helpless in the face of total loss that we create doors. When individuals open to compassion, in their vulnerability, they open to love. At that moment, the burden of pain is shared, and in that sharing, pain is given an opportunity to transform into “something life-giving” (68).
Brown makes clear arguments for drawing boundaries and resisting dehumanization in part because it is something that “we are all vulnerable to” (74). She proposes “rehumanization” as a means of redress, referring to a process that requires deep, critical analysis of “sophisticated enemy image campaigns” and our own conscious and subconscious historical biases (76). Power is abused when human dignity is sacrificed; the right to power is justified when human dignity is defended. True belonging provides access to power, and with that power, individuals and systems bear responsibility for living according to a higher set of standards.
Brown’s interviews with Dr. Michelle Buck and Viola Davis illustrate that offering compassion to people who have done harm is not simply forgiveness. When one has moved beyond fear, anger, guilt, and shame to a place of true belonging, perspective taking has the power to transform our relationship to conflict. The capacity to extend compassion in the face of pain is a natural extension of one’s comfort with being the wilderness.
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