How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion

Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

1. Pueblo emphasizes meditation as a transformative tool for relationships. How does this perspective compare to other relationship advice that might focus more on communication techniques or compatibility factors?

2. The book presents love as both a feeling and a practice requiring intention and skill. How does this framing shift your understanding of what love means and how it functions in relationships?

3. Pueblo uses personal anecdotes about his relationship with his wife, Sara, throughout the book. How did these stories impact your engagement with the text? Did they enhance the book’s credibility or applicability for you?

Encourage readers to reflect on how the book relates to their own life or work and how its lessons could help them.

1. Pueblo describes the “paradox of growth” (282): accepting partners completely while inspiring natural evolution. Reflect on a time when someone’s complete acceptance of you (without pressure to change) actually motivated you to grow. How did this experience compare to situations where change was demanded of you?

2. The book distinguishes between attachment (controlling, fearful) and love (freeing, accepting). In examining your own relationship patterns, where do you see elements of attachment disguising themselves as love? What specific fears might be driving these patterns?