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How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion
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Important Quotes
“After just two weeks of officially being a couple, we told each other ‘I love you’—both of us were telling the truth, but neither of us realized yet that love is more than a feeling; it’s a practice that needs intention, care, and skill.”
(Introduction, Pages xv-xvi)
This quote establishes one of the book’s central premises: Love requires active cultivation beyond initial emotional attraction. It connects to the key takeaway to Transform Your Relationship with Yourself First by highlighting that love needs skill development, not just emotional intensity, to flourish in relationships. Many relationship challenges arise when partners mistake the euphoria of new romance for the sustainable practice that love must become over time.
“In the act of knowing yourself better, you will be able to love your partner better and allow the vehicle of love to propel your personal growth. Love and growth need to go hand in hand for harmony to be a real possibility in a partnership.”
(Introduction, Page xxiv)
Pueblo outlines the symbiotic relationship between self-knowledge and relationship quality. His reminder to transform your relationship with yourself first emphasizes that inner growth translates to better relationships. This perspective shifts love from a static feeling to a dynamic vehicle for mutual evolution, in which each partner’s growth enhances the relationship’s depth.
“To be able to love your partner well, a deep reckoning needs to happen where you realize that how you love and heal yourself has a direct connection to how you show up in your relationship. The relationship between you and yourself has a clear impact on the relationship between you and your partner.”
(Chapter 1, Page 5)
This quote directly supports the key takeaway to transform your relationship with yourself first by establishing self-love as the template for all other connections. Readers might apply this by identifying one personal healing practice, like meditation or therapy, that could help them show up more authentically in their relationships.
