Lies and Weddings

Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

1. Have you read other novels by Kevin Kwan or seen any film adaptations of his work? What, if anything, surprised you about Lies and Weddings?

2. How did the author use comical elements to lighten the novel’s more serious themes?

3. How does the developing romance between Eden and Rufus either conform to or subvert typical romance tropes?

Encourage readers to connect the book’s themes and characters with their personal experiences.

1. Arabella’s relationships with her children become increasingly strained. Why do domineering parents persist in their attempts to control their children? Did Arabella’s choices mirror those of parental figures in your own life?

2. Eden gradually comes to understand that she has romantic feelings for her lifelong friend. Have you or anyone you know ever developed romantic feelings for a friend? Is friendship is a good foundation for a romantic relationship? Why or why not?

3. Rufus confidently chooses the life he wants despite family pressure to maintain traditions. Why are some people more willing to break with tradition than others? What are the potential consequences of such bold choices?

4. Thomas keeps a huge secret form his daughter for decades. Is his decision justified? Why or why not?

Examine the book’s relevance to societal issues, historical events, or cultural themes.

1. How realistic are the novel’s depictions of ultra-wealthy characters? To what extent does the narrative criticize excessive wealth and consumerism?

2. The novel examines a plethora of anti-Asian stereotypes and examples of racism. Under what conditions are such stereotypes most likely to flourish? How do certain characters resist and challenge racial stereotyping?

3. Why are some people resistant to marrying individuals from a different social or socioeconomic background? In what ways has society changed to become more accepting of these kinds of relationships?

Dive into the book’s structure, characters, themes, and symbolism.

1. Discuss Kwan’s use of footnotes. Did this tactic add crucial context to the novel, or did you find the footnotes distracting?

2. How does Eden change and grow over the course of the novel? What aspects of her character remain consistent?

3. Kwan often gives detailed descriptions of the clothing worn by different characters. How are clothing and accessories used to deepen characterization?

4. How does Eden’s sudden wealth alter her standing amongst those who previously judged or opposed her? What broader observations does the author make about the perception of wealth in society?

Encourage imaginative and creative connections to the book.

1. If this book were adapted into a movie, who would you cast the lead roles?

2. Pick one of the settings from the novel and plan a dream travel itinerary to that location. What would you do and what sites would you visit? Discuss how travelling on a budget or in a more luxurious fashion would impact the experience of the trip.

3. Imagine the eventual wedding between Eden and Rufus. Where would it take place, and what would they wear? What aspects would be traditional, and what aspects would they customize?