My Friend Dahmer

Derf Backderf

67 pages 2-hour read

Derf Backderf

My Friend Dahmer

Nonfiction | Graphic Novel/Book | Adult | Published in 2012

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Themes

Lack of Social Support for Vulnerable Individuals

Although the central character of the graphic novel is a future serial killer, Backderf makes it explicit that he views Jeffrey Dahmer as a tragic figure. This doesn’t mean that the author in any way espouses Dahmer’s fantasies or justifies his behavior; he simply believes things could have ended differently had there been educational and social support for Dahmer. Such a system could have registered Dahmer’s state of mind and reacted in time to prevent him from becoming a killer—and potentially help him lead a healthier life. The author frequently emphasizes his belief, his hope, that his high school friend might have walked a different path with some help, thereby saving 18 lives (those of Dahmer and his 17 victims).


Backderf doesn’t seek easy answers to this failure to act and support—nor does he find them. At a familial level, the Dahmers are dysfunctional and lacking in warmth; Dahmer’s parents are framed as neglectful. Dahmer’s father is distant and elusive, while his mother is unstable (i.e., prone to depressive episodes and violent outbursts). In such an environment, Dahmer’s deteriorating mental health goes unseen and unchecked; Backderf often depicts him alone in his room, listening to his parents argue, or staring at a wall in silent agony. The author can only speak for himself, but he believes Dahmer would have benefitted from having a stable home.


Backderf depicts the school system in rural America (during the 1970s) as greatly lacking in administrative, pastoral, and pedagogical support. Dahmer starts drinking at an early age, especially in school—during school hours and on school grounds—yet not a single adult notices or curbs his behavior. The author supplies quotes from school staff who claim they never found Dahmer’s behavior unusual—despite him imitating epileptic seizures and cerebral palsy tremors to amuse his peers. At the time, students were largely left to their own devices, this crack in the school system leaving Dahmer unsupervised and vulnerable. This fatal flaw proves detrimental to both Dahmer and his 17 innocent victims.


In Part 5, a police car stops Dahmer while he’s en route to dispose of his first victim’s remains. Backderf emphasizes the police’s lack of professionalism as they fail to notice Dahmer’s suspicious behavior. Even with a kill to his name, he could have still received medical and psychiatric help (and his crimes prevented) had the officer stepped in.


Derf the narrator also implicates himself and his schoolmates as responsible for not alerting adults of Dahmer’s disturbing behavior. While Dahmer’s peers interacted with him to a degree, Derf claims that everyone felt a “creepy feeling” that prevented them from getting closer to the boy. Derf frames his friend group as young and taught not to ‘narc,’ but the fact remains that they failed to act—that they chose to ignore the issue staring them in the face. The author implies that many people—at school and beyond—likely registered Dahmer’s instability but failed to take that extra step.

Nature Versus Nurture

Throughout the novel, Backderf poses the question: Was Dahmer’s descent into madness preventable? In other words, was his mental illness a product of natural biochemical imbalance, the product of social factors, or something inherent to his personality?


Backderf introduces Dahmer as a teenager, omitting information that the reader could use to analyze his behavior and influences as a child. Instead, Dahmer is presented as a young boy who already enjoys dissolving dead animals in acid and later develops an unhealthy curiosity about what’s inside these bodies. Psychiatric studies determined that many killers, especially serial killers, begin their crime sprees by experimenting on animals and later escalating to humans; this applies to Dahmer as well. On the other hand, the author takes care to document the unstable and volatile family situation in which Dahmer grows up—and offers this as a potential reason for Dahmer’s descent. Unhappy or abusive childhoods often produce anxious and mentally unstable adults.


By positioning Dahmer as disturbed from the start, Backderf speculates that certain traits may have always been a part of him. However, he counters his own speculation with the following question: Would these traits have developed into full psychosis had there been a functional support system to help Dahmer during his teenage years? Described as shy and aloof, Dahmer might have reacted positively to friends with a genuine interest in his life, to teachers and staff patient and willing to help. The author depicts the events of Dahmer’s young life as cards stacked against him, with no one paying attention to him and his troubles, no one expressing empathy or lending an ear. This potentially led Dahmer to forsake human connection in lieu of possessing dead or unresponsive human bodies for ‘interaction.’


While the question of nature versus nurture remains unresolved in Dahmer’s case (as is the hypothetical nature of the question), Backderf develops the theme to stress the importance of kindness in potentially saving lives and changing destinies.

Economic and Social Status of 1970s America

Backderf utilizes the events of the novel to paint a distinct portrait of the United States in the 1970s, especially the Midwest. While he rarely addresses the theme as is, he offers details and insights on growing up at this time and place, which dictates the way the characters behave.


Backderf belongs to the Baby Boom generation’s second wave, people born post-World War II during the prosperous 1950s-early 1960s. However, being born in 1959, he is of a generation that grew up with the Vietnam War and the postwar economic boom. In contrast to the 60s, the decade featured in the novel is one rife with economic upheavals that led to the largest recession since the Great Depression. The heavy industries and numerous jobs moved from the Midwest to the sunnier regions of the Southwest. The largely defunct industrial city of Akron, Ohio suffers from overcrowded schools, which leads to more pressure on the education system. One of the consequences of this is Dahmer’s high school experience: He falls through the cracks of an overburdened system as adults, responsible or not, fail to register his downward spiral, thereby failing to prevent his killing spree.


In observing the careful visual representation of the characters’ clothes and homes, the reader can piece together the town’s economic state. By the late 1970s, inflation rates were extremely high, bringing down the value of the dollar; Backderf illustrates this via the state of the characters’ cars and how the students celebrate prom. These details don’t just offer insight on the social state of the Midwest, but how young people behave. The 1970s was an era of individualism rather than communal spirit, so even as Derf and the boys form bonds, they don’t expect or treasure lifelong friendships (in fact, they barely keep in touch after high school). This, too, plays a part in Dahmer failing to fit into society: No one thinks twice about a boy who’s shy, aloof, and disturbing. The social climate encourages his mother to seek independence (presumably on the wave of feminist liberation), and both parents opt to leave the teenage boy on his own.

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