18 pages 36-minute read

My Love Sent Me a List

Fiction | Poem | Adult | Published in 2013

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The Thematic and Stylistic Uses of Subversion

Subversion is at the heart of “My Love Sent Me a List,” both stylistically and thematically, evident in its feminism and its homage to influences like Shakespeare. The most obvious subversion is of the sonnet format. While a Shakespearean sonnet is a strict form, this poem inverts the form by only sticking to some aspects of it. The poem is 14 lines, and some of the lines are written in iambic pentameter, but most of the lines are written in varying meters, and there is no established rhyme scheme. There is also a volta in the 13th line of the poem, following the traditional “turn” present in Shakespearean sonnets. Davis had the sonnet form in mind when writing, but as a contemporary poet who often writes in free verse, she has no qualms in subverting the traditional form.


On top of subverting the technical aspects of a Shakespearean sonnet, the content of the poem also subverts typical Shakespearean themes of love. For one, the poem is written by a woman and is about a man. That the woman is the one with editorial power and that the man is the subject of her judgement subverts Shakespeare’s entire sonnet output, as he was a man writing for (presumably) a woman. He was the one with the power to describe. Davis, on the other hand, wields Shakespeare’s form to assert her own power.


Another subversion of the traditional love sonnet is the type of relationship presented in the poem. Whereas most of Shakespeare’s sonnets speak glowingly of the unnamed love, this poem shows the “Love’s” faults and shows him to be a bad person. Davis does this to strengthen her own sense of self; by contrast, Shakespeare’s sonnets often elevate the object of desire at the expense of the poet.


One subtle inversion worth noting is the use of a list instead of a letter, as well as the language used to describe the list. Traditionally, letters go hand in hand with romance, but a list is much more technical, cold, and unemotional. This poem chooses to reject sentimentality, which, again, is not typical of traditional love sonnets.

Love and Jealousy

While the poem presents what seems to be a breakup, the theme of love is still present. Specifically, the poem’s choice of Othello as literary allusion frames it with jealousy. In Othello, the main character, Othello, sows the seeds of his own demise because he allows his jealous associate, Iago (who is angry about not getting a promotion), to make him doubt his wife, Desdemona. Iago convinces Othello that Desdemona is cheating on him, and this drives Othello into a rage. Ultimately, Othello kills Desdemona and himself after realizing Iago has poisoned him with jealousy.


Davis alludes to the play at the end of her poem: “And yet these mores undid but his own plea(s)(e) / And left, none-the-less, the Greater Moor of me” (Lines 13-14). This is an allusion for two reasons: One, the poem has already invoked Shakespeare with the sonnet form and with the first few lines; and two, Othello, in the play, is a Moor, so the use of “Greater Moor” underscores that there is some wordplay at work here. Davis is playing off the word “more” that she used in the previous line. This allusion is complicated, but when the characters in the poem are broken down, the “Love’s” letter has shown his own jealousy and self-doubt, making him a stand-in for Iago, the jealous villain of the play. The last line of the poem describes the speaker as the “Greater Moor,” or Othello. At the beginning of the play, Othello is a great general and a loving husband, and Iago, from his first speech, is judgmental, hateful, and infected with jealousy. In his first speech, for example, he says of Michael Cassio, the man who has been given the promotion Iago wants:


A fellow almost damn’d in a fair wife;
That never set a squadron in the field,
Nor the division of a battle knows
More than a spinster; unless the bookish theoric,
Wherein the toged consuls can propose
As masterly as he: mere prattle, without practise (1.1.20-26)


These lines are similar to the “Love’s” insults in Davis’s poem:


More capable of extra- and inter-
Polation. More well traveled -rounded multi-
Lingual. More practiced in so many matters
More: physical, attractive, musical,
Politic [...] academic [...] social (Lines 7-11)


The “Love” shares the same kind of jealousy-disguised-as-spite that Iago feels for Cassio (and Othello). By invoking the play at the end of the poem, Davis directs our attention to the play’s ultimate theme, which is jealousy and the power jealousy has over love. What is unclear, however, is where the speaker goes after the poem ends. While the poem ends with the speaker declaring herself the “Greater Moor,” suggesting she is represented by Othello at the beginning of the play, Othello ultimately succumbs to his own jealousy, which leads to his death. Davis’s poem never reveals where the speaker goes once the poem ends.

Self-Empowerment and Worth

“My Love Sent Me a List” also reads as a declaration of self-validation and self-worth. The writer of the list appears self-conscious; otherwise, he wouldn’t have gone through such an effort to demean the speaker. The speaker’s cool command of tone, editorial choices surrounding the list, and the conclusion of the poem suggest she is in control and understands she is the bigger person in this situation. The use of form also adds to this sense of control.


Yet, there is room for self-doubt here. Sarcasm, while often a powerful tool for exercising control, can also be a sign of self-doubt. And the fact that the form of the poem isn’t strict in its use of meter, rhyme, or language can also be a sign that the speaker is, in fact, not in as much control as she claims. Finally, the fact that the speaker still identifies the man as “my Love” (Line 1) suggests the speaker isn’t completely over him, despite the terrible things he’s listed about her.


The possibility of such wildly different conclusions about this poem’s message speaks to its complexity and the interpretive nature of poetry itself. In other words, the ambiguity is a good thing!

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