My Sister's Grave

Robert Dugoni

70 pages 2-hour read

Robert Dugoni

My Sister's Grave

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2014

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Symbols & Motifs

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of death.

The 1993 Championship Belt Buckle

The 1993 championship belt buckle is a powerful and evolving symbol of the love between the Crosswhite sisters. Initially, it embodies the competitive nature of their relationship and Tracy’s wounded pride. After Sarah deliberately loses the shooting competition, Tracy’s anger is focused on the buckle, which she feels she did not legitimately win. However, this symbol of conflict transforms into one of reconciliation and affection in their final moments together. In a gesture of forgiveness and love, Tracy presses the buckle into her sister’s hand, an act that becomes her last memory of Sarah. The narrative underscores the weight of this moment, stating, “Tracy had pressed the silver belt buckle into Sarah’s palm along with the truck keys. She would not see either again for twenty years” (12). This final exchange haunts Tracy, becoming a tangible representation of her unresolved grief and guilt over leaving her sister alone.


For two decades, the buckle exists only in Tracy’s memory, a painful reminder of her loss. Its rediscovery in Sarah’s grave is a pivotal turning point that collapses the distance between past and present. The buckle is an undeniable link to her sister’s remains: “They’d found the belt buckle. They’d found Sarah” (36). Its unearthing provides a devastating closure, extinguishing any hope of Sarah’s survival while confirming her fate. At the same time, it reignites Tracy’s purpose, transforming her grief into a cold anger. The buckle, once a symbol of the sisters’ private bond, becomes hard evidence, a catalyst for Tracy’s relentless pursuit of the truth. A testament to the enduring love Sarah carried to the grave, the buckle fuels Tracy’s fight for justice.

“I Am Not Afraid of the Dark”

The phrase “I am not afraid of the dark” is a recurring motif that represents sisterly love, courage, and the enduring power of memory. The prayer originates in the sisters’ childhood as a ritual of comfort, with Tracy teaching the words to a young Sarah to assuage her fear of imaginary monsters. This secret establishes the profound intimacy of their bond, forged in the safety of their bedroom, and it represents the innocence of their youth and Tracy’s role as Sarah’s protector. The motif reappears at Sarah’s funeral, where Tracy whispers the words as she places soil on the grave, making the private ritual a public declaration of love and grief: “I am not afraid of the dark” (75). This childhood prayer becomes a defining element of her memory and sorrow, a way to connect with her sister after her death.


The motif is fully realized in the novel’s climax, when it becomes a crucial clue and an empowering message from beyond the grave. Trapped in the same mine where Sarah was held captive, Tracy discovers that Sarah painstakingly carved the beginning of the prayer into the concrete wall, turning their chant against imaginary evil into an act of defiance against a real monster. When the sisters first developed the chant, Tracy was Sarah’s protector, the older sister who recited the prayer to make her younger sister feel safe. Here, their roles reverse: By carving the prayer into the wall, Sarah left a message that only Tracy could understand. This empowers Tracy, giving her the courage needed to survive and proving that their sisterly bond is powerful enough to transcend death.

The Town of Cedar Grove

Cedar Grove is a fractured community whose physical and economic decay symbolizes the moral erosion caused by Sarah’s murder and the subsequent cover-up. In flashbacks, Tracy remembers a vibrant, idyllic hometown, a place of safety and close-knit relationships. Upon her return, however, she finds a place that is a shadow of its former self, its decline a physical manifestation of the unresolved trauma it has harbored for two decades. The narrative contrasts her memories with the grim present, as Tracy drives through a downtown filled with boarded-up windows and fading signs, leading her to contemplate “what had once been her hometown, but which now look[s] so tired and worn that it [i]s foreign to her” (16). This decay is the physical consequence of the corruption of truth, suggesting that the town’s vitality died with Sarah, unable to move forward while a fundamental lie remained at its core.


Specific locations in the surrounding landscape serve as microcosms of this buried truth. Sarah’s grave is discovered on the abandoned Cascadia resort property, a failed development that was meant to bring prosperity. Instead, the project’s failure and the broken dam literally submerged the community’s dark secret. As Tracy explains, the new perimeter of the lake “flooded that area” (24), physically putting the grave out of reach and figuratively halting the town’s future. Similarly, the abandoned Cedar Grove mine, a remnant of the town’s foundational industry, becomes the secret site of Sarah’s captivity and murder. Using this dark, subterranean space to commit such a horrific crime reflects the corruption of the town’s heritage, as its very foundations are repurposed to hide a terrible truth.

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