Notes on Your Sudden Disappearance

Contemporary bereavement research challenges older models of grief that required severing ties with the deceased, instead proposing that mourners can form healthy, adaptive connections with those they’ve lost. Scholars in this field argue that “the healthy resolution of grief enables one to maintain a continuing bond with the deceased. […] survivors find places for the dead in their ongoing lives and even in their communities. Such bonds are not denial; the deceased can provide resources for enriched functioning in the present” (Klass, Dennis, et al. “Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief.” Routledge, 1996). This perspective reframes mourning not as detachment but as an evolving relationship with a lost loved one.

In Notes on Your Sudden Disappearance, Espach translates this therapeutic concept into a narrative strategy. The novel’s second-person point of view transforms storytelling into a form of grief work, with narrator Sally addressing her deceased sister, Kathy, directly. This sustained “you” turns the narrative into the very “continuing bond” theorists describe. From the first line—“You disappeared on a school night” (3)—the narrative is an active, ongoing conversation that keeps Kathy perpetually present in language. This framework allows Sally to process even the most traumatic events through an imagined dialogue.