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Ainsley has a tantrum while Lenny and Miles are watching her, and they determine that it is because Reese scheduled a trip during her school’s dance recital. Ainsley reappears in the kitchen and confirms this, saying that she was especially excited for a part of the recital where the students’ guardians were invited to dance with them. Lenny suggests that Miles should offer to join her, and Ainsley agrees, teaching him how to dance.
Lenny is happy to hear that Ainsley is still teaching Miles to dance a few days later. Later, both Lenny and Reese are shocked when they hear Ainsley and Miles loudly laughing together while watching a silly reality show on TV. As Lenny and Miles leave Reese’s apartment, she tells him that Jericho agreed to go to the concert with her, and they go out to celebrate. However, Lenny uses this excuse to get Miles to do something he actually needs to do: get glasses. Lenny has noticed Miles squinting when he reads, and she forces him to see an optometrist. Miles learns that he is farsighted and lets Lenny pick a pair of glasses for him, but he also buys a fun pair of heart-shaped sunglasses for her. Lenny finds Miles even more attractive in his new glasses.
Lenny takes Ainsley to Miles’s apartment for a “secret mission” to make Reese a surprise birthday cake. They formulate a plan for Ainsley to distract Reese while Lenny and Miles set up the cake, and Reese is pleasantly surprised. Lenny is pleased when Reese hugs Miles to thank him for his help with the plan, despite their tense past regarding her birthday.
Lenny anxiously waits outside Madison Square Garden for Jericho to arrive for the 5Night concert. She is shocked to see that Jericho has become a big fan of the group since she invited him to the concert, and they have a great time. Jericho invites Lenny out to get drinks with friends afterward, and he suggests that she invite Miles, so she does. They all go out with Jericho’s friends, Rica and Jeffy, and Miles is happy that Lenny is happy. Lenny gets closer to Rica and tells her about how Miles is helping her. Rica initially seems interested in dating Miles and asks Lenny if there is anything romantic going on between the two of them, but she backs off after she hears how close Lenny and Miles have gotten. Miles suddenly invites everyone to go camping with him and Lenny, as it is something that is on her Live Again list, and they all agree.
Lenny and Miles collapse on his couch two hours later, and the next morning, they talk about the concert and how Lenny wants to talk to Lou about it. Lenny sees paint in her hair from Jericho’s costume last night and feels overwhelmed by the loss of Lou. When Lou lost her hair to chemo the first time, Lenny also shaved her head, but when she relapsed, Lou made her promise that she would grow her hair out. Lenny grabs scissors and is about to cut her hair off, unable to stand the reminder of Lou and wanting to do something she will regret. Miles stops her and gently helps her wash her hair out and put it up. When Lenny lashes out against him for not letting her do something she will regret, he agrees that it is unfair of him. He suggests that they do something that she will regret—but not cutting her hair—and Lenny suggests that they go get a tattoo.
Miles checks to see if Lenny really wants to do this as they get to the tattoo parlor, and she says that she does, especially because it is not something on her list. Miles asks if their tattoos have to be matching, and Lenny didn’t think that he was going to get one, too. Miles lets Lenny choose whatever she wants. She tells him that he doesn’t need to get a tattoo, but he goes through with it, and they watch one another as they get their matching tattoos. Lenny opts for a design of a wolf howling at the moon, a silly design that she thinks Miles will hate her for since it is a lonely image. However, Miles lets her know that they can’t be lonely because there are two of them, and when wolves howl, they do so to find one another.
Lenny, Ainsley, and Miles go thrift shopping, and Lenny gives Miles her phone when she goes to try on silly T-shirts. Her phone vibrates in his pocket several times as her mother tries to reach her, but Lenny is still ignoring her parents, so they don’t see the depth of her grief. They go on their camping trip with Jericho, Rica, and Jeffy a week later, and Miles has prepared everything since no one else has been camping before. They hike to a swimming hole a few minutes away, where Lenny is surprised to see Miles do a cannonball. Miles is surprised to learn that Lenny talked to Rica about Lou and that she does it again when they are camping. Lenny admits that she doesn’t actually regret getting her tattoo, so she and Rica brainstorm for other things she can do and regret. Lenny feels wonderful as she is out in the sunshine and able to talk about Lou without crying.
Jeffy and Lenny beat the others at a card game, and Lenny teases Miles for it, so he takes her to the river and is about to dunk her in before he changes his mind. The others boo. Later that night, they all talk about their love lives and whether any of them have ever dated each other, and it is clear that the others are teasing Miles and Lenny. Lenny pushes Jericho into Miles’s tent so that no one will expect her to share a tent with him. Yet only afterward does Lenny remember that she still cries most of the night, so Miles takes his sleeping bag to stay outside with her. The two of them talk about how Miles pushed others away while he was in the worst of his grief, and that is why it is hard for him to get close to others. Yet with Lenny, he knows that she is too loyal to leave him, so he can be his whole self with her.
As they pack up the campsite to leave, Miles reveals that he is not actually going back to the city tonight but is instead going to check on his house upstate. He invites Lenny to come over and stay the night as the others head back to the city after making dinner plans next week. Lenny is surprised by the ease with which Miles interacts with the home in which he grew up, and she loves the personality of his house. Miles admits that he came upstate because he was invited to a wedding, and Lenny agrees to go with him before she even knows what they are doing. The person getting married is Cody Ketterman, an old friend and the older brother of Miles’s ex-girlfriend, Kira, who will be at the wedding. Though Miles tries to convince Lenny that she doesn’t need to come, she is excited to be able to go with him and help him. Lenny borrows one of Miles’s mother’s dresses for the wedding, and as she gets ready, she is surprised to see how regular and healthy she looks. She is also stunned speechless by the sight of Miles in a suit, and Lenny jokingly flirts with him to diffuse the tension. While looking for a coat closet, Lenny comes across the room of Miles’s cousin, Anders, and it is clear that Miles never touched his room since his death. Lenny realizes that Miles has not quite processed his cousin’s death as he did his mother’s.
Miles is nervous as they drive to the wedding, and Lenny prods him until he reveals that he is nervous to see everyone in his small town, who all looked at him differently after his family died and he broke up with Kira, the town’s sweetheart. After the ceremony, Miles is even more nervous when he runs into Kira and learns that she is seeing Sean Vogel. When Miles and Kira were dating, she cheated on Miles with Sean. Miles took her back afterward, afraid of how the town would treat him if they broke up. Lenny feels crushed for him, but the moment ends when some high school friends find Miles. Later, Lenny runs into Kira in the bathroom, and she warns Lenny that while Miles is a great guy, he often hides himself and needs a gentle touch. Lenny wonders how Kira could have dated Miles for five years and not known him like she does.
Lenny gets Miles to leave early after they watch Kira catch the bride’s bouquet. As they drive back home, it begins to rain heavily. Running into Miles’s building, they see that the power has gone out. They make their way into Miles’s bedroom in the dark to get fresh clothes and get changed. Miles makes a fire, and when they settle in front of it, Lenny asks Miles if he is still devastated over Anders, and he knows that she has seen his bedroom. He reveals that Anders was five years younger than him. When he came to live with him and his mother, Miles became Anders’s big brother. Lenny says that she likes hearing about his family and that he can tell her about them if he feels like it. Reminded of something, Miles goes to get a present for Lenny—a locket with her and Lou’s picture in it—because Lenny said that she always wanted to have a picture of Lou with her to show people. She wonders what photo she should put in the other side of the locket, and she decides that it should be a picture of Miles.
Bastone continues to document the process of Learning to Live With Grief through her depiction of Lenny’s shifting feelings about Lou’s death. In Chapter 22, Lenny and Miles are both amazed when she is able to talk about Lou without crying, showing a great change since Miles met her, when she fell apart before she could even say Lou’s name. Lenny makes new friends and tries new things like going camping, being spontaneous for the first time without Lou. When she is sitting in the sunshine and listening to her new friends around her, Lenny thinks, “Maybe I’ve been wrong this whole time and the entire world is not through my eyes […] I’ve just cracked the code. How to live a perfect existence: just embrace it all, every lovely/excruciating color” (180). This insight marks her growing awareness that grief can coexist with other emotions and experiences. Even as Lenny begins to embrace new friends and happier experiences, little things still constantly remind her of Lou, such as going to their favorite band’s concert without her. Lenny’s hair is a symbol that often reminds her of Lou, who told her not to shave it off again after her second cancer diagnosis. In this way, Lenny’s hair represents how she is holding on to the past, something that becomes particularly painful to her when she sees paint from Jericho’s costume in her hair after the concert that Lou couldn’t attend. The concert is a moment of exuberant happiness for Lou, but immediately afterward, she finds herself wanting to do something she will regret, like cutting her hair off, just so that she can feel something other than the pain of losing Lou. However, as she grieves, new feelings like love and safety emerge, especially regarding her feelings for Miles. Even when she misses Lou the most, Lenny’s grief has adapted, and she starts to accept new emotions like joy.
Lenny uses Miles as a gauge of how her grief will change over time. Miles reinforces this by telling Lenny how he is feeling and comparing their experiences, such as when he tells her about his tendency to push others away in Chapter 23. Miles’s emotional support allows Lenny to explore her developing emotions within a context of safety, emphasizing The Importance of Seeking and Accepting Help. Lenny wonders how Miles instinctively knows what she needs, like when he sleeps outside with her while they are camping, but she recognizes that his intuition comes from his own experience.
The trip to Miles’s hometown gives Lenny new insight into his journey with grief. When she learns that he stayed with his cheating girlfriend just so that his community wouldn’t go back to viewing him only as the man who lost his family, she reconsiders the relationship between grief and identity, realizing that Miles didn’t want to let his grief define him. She is interested in the way that Miles touches his mother’s picture when he first enters their house and is hopeful because he can stand to be there years after his family’s death. Miles can also go through his mother’s clothes without discomfort, though he only offers Lenny options of dresses to wear from a selection he doesn’t remember his mother wearing. These details confirm to Lenny that she, too, will one day be able to live with grief while leaving room for other feelings. Even so, Lenny also observes the ways that Miles still deals with his grief years later, especially in how he relates to Anders. His cousin’s untouched room symbolizes how Miles hasn’t quite processed that grief, as it is different and more complex than the grief he feels for his mother. Overall, through Miles’s changing grief, Lenny learns that loss can get easier to live with, but it will not go away completely.
In previous chapters, Lenny and Miles’s friendship grew rapidly, but these chapters start to show how their romantic relationship is blossoming as well. Their friends tease them about their relationship on the camping trip, knowing what neither is ready to admit about their feelings. Lenny starts to notice more of these feelings in herself, such as when she realizes how attractive Miles is and later decides to sleep outside rather than share a tent with him. They both begin to help one another with more than what they agreed to do. When Lenny helps Miles get glasses and accompanies him to the wedding for his own benefit, she reminds him of the importance of Caring for Oneself to Care for Others—a lesson she previously learned from him. The depth of their understanding for one another is highlighted during their time upstate, when Lenny recognizes that she knows Miles better than his ex-girlfriend of five years and he gives her a locket with a picture of Lou inside because he knows that Lenny wants to tell others about Lou. As with other relationships in the novel, the changing nature of Lenny and Miles’s relationship parallels the changing nature of grief. These moments in which they are falling for one another also foreshadow what complications will arise as their relationship starts to change.



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