Self-Compassion: The Proven Power Of Being Kind To Yourself

Kristin Neff

44 pages 1-hour read

Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power Of Being Kind To Yourself

Nonfiction | Book | Adult | Published in 2011

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Index of Terms

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes references to emotional abuse, mental illness, illness, and physical abuse.

Caregiver Fatigue (or Compassion Fatigue or Empathy Fatigue)

Caregiver Fatigue refers to the burnout people in caregiver roles experience when the demands of their job become too stressful. Neff describes Caregiver Fatigue as a serious syndrome often experienced by people in caregiving professions such as first responders, nurses, therapists. She writes, “Caregiver fatigue is a type of exhaustion and burnout experienced as a result of continually caring for and empathizing with traumatized patients. When listening to tales of abuse or horror, or when tending to bodies that have been ravaged by sickness or violence, caregivers feel their patients’ distress” (191). The author argues that self-compassion can have a protective effect against caregiver fatigue.

Compassion Satisfaction

Compassion Satisfaction is the joy people experience when they care for others. The author describes this experience as “feeling energized, happy, and grateful that one is able to make a difference in the world” (192). The author cites research that shows how practicing self-compassion helps people in caregiving positions experience compassion satisfaction as opposed to compassion fatigue and burnout.

Sympathetic Joy or Mudita

The Buddhist concept of mudita is translated into English as sympathetic joy, meaning feeling happy for others’ joys and successes. Neff explains that cheering for others’ wellbeing is a facet of compassion that reduces jealousy and competition and increases one’s happiness and connection to others. Practicing mudita in cultures where competition and comparison are normalized, like Western culture, is difficult, but self-compassion can open the door for extending mudita to others.

Overidentification

Neff uses the term overidentification to refer to people identifying too strongly with their own emotional responses. She explains that when people over-identify with their emotions, “Our sense of self becomes so wrapped up in our emotional reactions that our entire reality is consumed by them” (82). Neff believes that self-compassion can moderate overidentification by consciously interrupting emotional reactions with calm, rational thoughts.

Negativity Bias

Negativity Bias is a natural phenomenon in which people tend to focus more on negative experiences or thoughts than positive ones. Neff attributes this to human evolution, since people must be highly aware of threats to survive. She explains, “Our brains evolved to be highly sensitive to negative information so that the fight-or-flight response could be triggered quickly and easily in the brain’s amygdala, meaning that our chances of taking action to ensure our survival would be maximized” (110). The author acknowledges that negativity bias has a real evolutionary purpose, but laments that in modern life, it may be less useful and can lead to rumination and self-criticism.

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