So Old, So Young

Grant Ginder

49 pages 1-hour read

Grant Ginder

So Old, So Young

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2026

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Part 5Chapter Summaries & Analyses

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of racism, sexual content, cursing, substance use, and addiction.

Part 5: “Montclair, New Jersey: October 29, 2022”

Part 5, Chapter 26 Summary: “Mia: 12:15 pm”

In 2022, Mia meets up with Adam and Richie at Penn Station before heading to Sasha and Theo’s in New Jersey for their kids’ Halloween party. Since breaking up with Lev last year, she has spent more and more time with Adam and Richie. 


Meanwhile, she has noticed how much she misses Sasha and recently began planning a trip to Miami for them. She is thrilled that they will be going away together soon, as they haven’t had much opportunity to see each other since Sasha had her second child, Prudence. Now, she, Adam, and Richie convene and hop on the train to their destination, grumbling about attending a party in the suburbs.

Part 5, Chapter 27 Summary: “Sasha: 12:30 pm”

Shortly before the party starts, Sasha runs out in search of a goldfish to replace Ethan’s dead fish. At Whole Foods, she feels upset and overwhelmed and gets into an altercation with the clerk. She has been stressed a lot lately. Theo still doesn’t know about the affair she had with Mitch, but they’ve been going to couples therapy. Instead of fixing their problems, therapy has only made Sasha realize that she doesn’t want to be with Theo anymore. Still, she has been trying to make new friends in New Jersey and settle into life outside the city. She particularly appreciates her connection with Anoushka. 


Now, when Mia texts that she, Adam, and Richie have arrived at her house, Sasha panics, feeling as if she can’t breathe.

Part 5, Chapter 28 Summary: “Mia: 2:05 pm”

At the house, Sasha tasks Mia with replacing Ethan’s dead fish with the live one. Afterward, everyone changes into their costumes. While getting ready in the bathroom with Sasha, Mia exclaims about their upcoming trip. Sasha reveals she won’t be able to go because she doesn’t have childcare for the week. An offended Mia tries to mask her frustration but decides she won’t take Sasha’s suggestion to bring Richie or Adam instead, preferring to go alone.

Part 5, Chapter 29 Summary: “Richie: 3:30 pm”

Richie zones out while talking to a guy “dressed as Woody from Toy Story” (267), trying to remember why he agreed to attend the party at all. When the man starts making racist remarks about Black Lives Matter, Richie excuses himself without explanation. 


He wanders around the house, finally closing himself in the bathroom and texting Nina that he is in New Jersey. The two have become friends over the past few years, hanging out and talking regularly. He recalls when he accompanied Nina to dinner with Courtney. Courtney blabbed about her divorce from Geoff and her new relationship with Kyle. While detailing her recent attempts to get pregnant, Courtney revealed she had run into Adam “at a fertility clinic in Norwalk” (274). Richie tried not to let the news bother him.


Richie rejoins the party, but steps aside to take a call from Nina, who is offended that she wasn’t invited. Richie assures her she’s lucky not to be there, but Nina is still upset. She rants about how inconsiderate Sasha is for excluding her, especially considering that she’s kept her secret about Mitch Reynolds for years. Richie is shocked to learn of the affair and agrees that Sasha’s behavior is cruel. 


Afterward, he wanders around the party feeling despondent. Deciding it’s pointless to try being good when everyone is going to treat you poorly anyway, Richie takes a Jell-O shot.

Part 5, Chapter 30 Summary: “Sasha: 3:45 pm”

Sasha chats with her new friends Claire and Cassie. She introduces them to Mia and is relieved when Mia initially seems to join the conversation. She recalls confiding in Anoushka about her desire to back out of the Miami trip. She didn’t want to go because Marco and Emily are having marital problems and Emily needs her support. Anoushka encouraged Sasha to be honest with Mia, sure that Mia would understand. Sasha now wonders if she should have taken Anoushka’s advice and told Mia the real reason for canceling but feels increasingly irritated with Mia the more she studies her and listens to her talk. She looks young and fresh and is cold toward Claire.

Part 5, Chapter 31 Summary: “Mia: 4:10 pm”

Mia wanders away from the group, irritated by her interaction with Sasha and her new friends. She is still furious with Sasha for backing out of their trip. Adam appears, and they discuss his and Rami’s attempts to have a child. Adam reveals their plans to use his sperm because, unlike Rami, he doesn’t have any genetic conditions.


After Adam wanders off, Mia meets Anoushka, who has heard a lot about Mia through Sasha. Mia instantly likes her when she starts venting about what a horrible person Claire is. However, Mia is furious when Anoushka accidentally reveals that Sasha isn’t going to Miami because she is going to DC to be with Emily.

Part 5, Chapter 32 Summary: “Adam: 4:30 pm”

Adam finds himself talking to another guest about his and Rami’s fertility journey. Becoming increasingly uncomfortable the more questions the man asks, Adam excuses himself and wanders into the kitchen, where Mia and Sasha are arguing. He tries to mediate, but the altercation intensifies. 


Theo enters in search of a bat for the kids’ piñata, irritating Sasha. Then Richie emerges and interrupts the women’s fight, insisting Sasha has no room to call Mia “selfish” when she is the one who has been sleeping with Mitch Reynolds. Adam immediately realizes Richie is drunk. Theo is stunned into silence. A furious Sasha demands that they all leave.

Part 5, Chapter 33 Summary: “Mia: 5:30 pm”

Out on the curb, Mia, Richie, and Adam wait for an Uber. Meanwhile, Adam scolds Richie for being insensitive and unfairly hurting Sasha’s marriage. Richie accuses Adam of always trying to be morally superior. Mia realizes Richie is right and takes his side against Adam, insulting Adam, too. Adam wanders off alone. Richie yells after him that he is going to be a bad father.

Part 5 Analysis

The main characters’ reunion at Sasha’s suburban Halloween party incites new conflicts between the friends, developing The Tension Between Chosen Family and Individual Identity. Throughout the section, Mia, Sasha, Adam, and Richie find themselves at odds with each other. While they have all agreed to spend time together in Montclair, their interactions over the course of the party reveal their increasingly disparate ways of seeing the world, living their lives, and relating to each other. 


Sasha has invited her old friends to her new house in New Jersey in hopes of maintaining some ties to her past but finds that no one is behaving the way she wants them to. Mia has agreed to attend the party because she has missed authentic connections since she broke up with Lev. She hopes that reconnecting with Sasha in particular will “remind [her] of who she had been” and thus restabilize her sense of self (241). However, her time in Montclair only highlights how much she and Sasha have changed and how little they seem to have in common now. 


Adam and Richie find themselves in conflict with each other, too. While Adam, like Sasha, has chosen the more conventional path of marriage and parenthood, Richie is, like Mia, trying to maintain personal stability, invest in his friendships, and enjoy his life in the meantime. Mia and Richie discover that while they once shared meaningful friendships with their college companions, Sasha’s and Adam’s worldviews fundamentally diverge from their own and in fact endanger their independent senses of self. For Mia, this means confronting Sasha for lying to her, and for Richie, this means relapsing and attacking Adam.


Part 5 has a tense, tumultuous mood, inspired by the stifling suburban backdrop as Time as a Test of Bonds Between People comes to the fore, with characters like Mia and Richie feeling left out of the major life changes their friends have experienced. At the start of the section, Richie is reluctant to spend “Halloween in the fucking suburbs” but ends up attending anyway (239). His and Mia’s lack of interest in the actual event shadows the section, establishing immediate tension in the characters’ reunion. The more childlike imagistic references to party costumes, Ethan’s fish, and the piñata contrast with Richie’s and Mia’s internal debates about work, sex, deception, and betrayal. Mia and Richie find themselves in a world where they feel they fundamentally don’t belong. They are still trying to fit themselves into their friends’ lives—to make themselves available to Sasha and Adam—although they intellectually know that their friends’ lives and values no longer align with their own. Over the course of the section, petty arguments or uncomfortable scenes of small talk intensify the narrative atmosphere in anticipation of the section’s climactic altercation between the friends.


The final two chapters of the section challenge the friends to work through their differences but lead them to an ultimate breaking point. When Mia confronts Sasha for backing out of the Miami trip, Sasha has the opportunity to apologize and make amends. Instead, Sasha chooses to insult Mia and disparage her life: “[Emily] has a demanding job and two kids to take care of. I know that it’s impossible for you to understand what that amount of responsibility is like, but that’s not my fault, and it’s not hers either” (304). Sasha refuses to give credence to Mia’s experience (and her longing to reconnect as friends) because she believes that Mia fundamentally cannot conceptualize who she is in the present. She also reveals a strong bias against women who are single and childfree, as she implies that Mia could not possibly know what a lot of “responsibility” feels like. Sasha’s insults thus reveal both the emotional distance between the two friends and the way societal pressures surrounding what “adulthood” should look like can lead to discrimination and exclusion of people who follow a different path.  


Similarly, Richie feels as if Adam and Sasha regard themselves as superior simply because they have chosen a more traditional life path and chooses to push his friends away by attacking their characters. In these ways, the characters find that their chosen family no longer authenticates how they have changed and who they have become. They struggle to reconcile their mutating individualities with the almost-stagnant group dynamic.

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