The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

1. Compared to other self-help books you’ve read, how does Lerner’s focus on anger as a catalyst for change feel distinctive or limiting in its approach to women’s empowerment?

2. How did you respond to Lerner’s writing style and use of case studies—did they feel accessible and relatable, or at times repetitive or too narrowly focused?

3. In reflecting on the book as a whole, what insights struck you as most useful for everyday relationships, and which ideas felt harder to connect with or apply?

Encourage readers to reflect on how the book relates to their own life or work and how its lessons could help them.

1. Lerner writes that anger often masks deeper fears of loss or rejection. Can you recall a moment when your anger carried an underlying fear? How might recognizing that connection shift how you respond next time? 

2. The book challenges women to separate their individuality from the roles imposed on them. In your own life, where do you feel pressure to conform to others’ expectations, and how might you reclaim a clearer sense of self?

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