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The Ex

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2019

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The Insidious Nature of Jealousy

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of suicide.


The insidious nature of jealousy is a powerful theme throughout the novel, guiding the behavior of both the primary narrators, Anna and Cassie. In “The Ex” chapters, Anna’s jealousy of Joel’s new girlfriend Francesca causes her to lash out in anger. In “The New Girl” chapters, Cassie’s jealousy of Joel’s prior relationship with Francesca complicates her own relationship with Joel. Even before Anna sees Joel with Francesca, she feels intense jealousy knowing that Joel will one day find a woman he would “deem worthy of marriage, the house in the suburbs, the kids” (13). Anna’s jealousy is built on the fact that she believes Joel will marry the woman he dates after her: “I came to despise the new girl he would meet who would someday take my place at the altar when he was finally ready to settle down” (14). In these passages, the specific references to marriage reflect Anna’s belief that Joel didn’t think she was good enough to be his wife, and that his new girlfriend Francesca will be.


Anna’s jealousy over Francesca quickly transforms into anger and then into murderous intent. When Anna sees Francesca and Joel kissing, “something inside [her] snaps” (65). This volatile anger leads Anna to stalk Francesca with the explicit hope of scaring her into breaking up with Joel. Francesca’s fear “energized” (76) Anna, who “wanted her to be afraid […] wanted her to know there are consequences to dating Joel Broder” (76). Anna acknowledges that her anger and stalking are outside of her normal behavior, noting that she has “done a lot of things that haven’t seemed like me in the last few months” (167) since her breakup with Joel. Anna’s angry, obsessive behavior demonstrates the insidious power of jealousy to change a person’s personality.


Cassie also expresses intense jealousy over Francesca, whom she knows as Joel’s ex-girlfriend. Cassie’s jealousy over Francesca causes her to sabotage her own relationship with Joel. Although she never meets Francesca in person, Cassie obsesses over her as “the faceless but beautiful woman who occupied Joel’s heart before she did” (130). Cassie’s jealousy is rooted in the fact that Francesca is “better liked by [Joel’s] friends” (130), who describe her as “a great cook” and “perfect” (130). These anxieties cause her to act reserved around Joel’s friends, making it difficult for her to form relationships with them. Cassie also worries that Joel would prefer to be with Francesca, expressing anxiety that “if there’s any great love story here, it’s the one between Joel and Francesca” (131). Cassie’s anxieties about Joel’s relationship with Francesca cause her to sabotage their relationship even after she learns that Francesca is dead. In separate but overlapping timelines, the novel shows how jealousy undermines first Anna’s psyche and then Cassie’s, causing each woman to turn against herself and—in Anna’s case—to act out violently against her perceived rival.

The Lasting Pain of Heartbreak

Throughout the novel, various characters struggle with the lasting pain of heartbreak after relationships end. Anna’s heartbreak after the end of her relationship with Joel causes her to forget about everything else in her life. Similarly, Cassie’s prior relationships make it difficult for her to form meaningful connections with Joel. Finally, Joel’s heartbreak over Francesca’s death disturbs him even after he forms a meaningful relationship with Cassie.


After Joel breaks up with Anna, she becomes obsessed with finding ways to get him back. In Chapter 2, she takes “forty-three snapshots” (27) of herself in order to get “that perfect shot” (27) to post on her social media in the hopes of attracting Joel’s attention. Although Anna acknowledges that this behavior is “pathetic” (28), she is determined to keep trying “until Joel changes his status to ‘in a relationship’” (28). Anna’s obsession with Joel leads her to stalk him around the city using the WhereAmI app, even though she acknowledges that her behavior is “not healthy” (29). In both instances, Anna’s behavior reflects the intensity of her heartbreak, which leads her to act outside of her character. The fact that Anna continues to obsess over Joel a year after their breakup demonstrates the lasting pain of heartbreak.


Cassie’s past heartbreak from previous relationships initially makes it difficult for her to form a meaningful relationship with Joel. Her ex-boyfriend Harry was abusive, and alcohol fueled his abuse. As a result, “every time an attractive man would approach her, she’d think back to Harry and all the other unsatisfying and often miserable relationships she’d had” (69) and reject their advances. Cassie’s history of heartbreak makes her wary of all men, including Joel, especially when he begins to drink excessively during Lydia’s Halloween party. Like Anna, Cassie struggles to move past the lasting heartbreak of a failed relationship.


Although Joel is no longer in love with Francesca, he still experiences intense heartbreak as a result of her death, which he believes was driven by sadness over their breakup. Cassie notices that “Joel always looks so sad and distant whenever Francesca’s name comes up” (286) and realizes that “he blames himself for her death” (286). The fact that Francesca was pregnant when she died “pushed him over the edge” (311), and it ultimately took him “several months before he could go back to work again, to the job he loved” (311). Anna ultimately concludes that Joel will “spend his life blaming himself for [Francesca’s] death” (345). The fact that Joel visits Francesca’s restaurant and becomes emotional at the thought of her for years after her death reflects the lasting, painful nature of his heartbreak.

The Disempowering Effects of Wealth Inequality

As Cassie’s and Anna’s stories unfold in tandem, it becomes clear that they have much in common. Most obviously, both women are far less wealthy than Joel and his rich friends. As they struggle to stay afloat in the hyper-capitalist environment of New York City, they find that their choices are shaped and limited by the need for money.


When Joel breaks up with Anna (initially identified only as “the Ex”), the breakup has an immediate and profound impact on the material conditions of her life. She continues to depend on him to pay the rent on her apartment, preventing her from moving on and raising the stakes of her attempts to get him back. When he cuts off the rent payments, she is forced to move out of the spacious apartment she had shared with him and—after touring a 70-square-foot “micro-apartment”—leave Manhattan to move in with her grandmother in Brooklyn. In the later timeline, as Cassie is dating Joel, Anna is happily married to Dean and living an upper-middle-class life: For both her and Cassie, the stakes of success or failure in romance are economic as well as emotional.


Cassie’s struggling bookstore is evidence of another kind of economic inequality. Cassie is forced to take extreme measures to keep the store open in a changing economy, and the store’s debt has a tangible impact on her personal life. In the opening pages of the novel, Cassie expresses regret about “taking the reins of a used bookstore that was struggling in the setting of a growing online and electronic book sales market” (15). Even before she took over the store, Cassie’s grandparents Marv and Bea were forced to “to do things they weren’t proud of to keep the doors from closing” (42). Grandma Bea attempts to justify her husband’s decision to forge antique books by explaining that they “couldn’t make enough money” (339) with normal sales and “would have lost everything” (339) if they hadn’t resorted to illegal forgeries. Cassie continues the forgeries because she knows that “without that extra money, her business was gone” (339), and she can’t bear to “lose her grandparents’ store” (339). For both Cassie and her grandparents, resorting to illegal forgeries is a necessary step in keeping their struggling business afloat.


Throughout the novel, Cassie’s coworker Zoe offers legal but bizarre suggestions for keeping the business financially sound. At various points, she suggests that they install “a makeup counter” (45), “an erotica section” (158), and “a petting zoo” (253), and that they pivot to being a “bookstore and sandwich shop” (89). The increasing strangeness of these suggestions reflects her desperation to keep the store open and demonstrates the constant struggles of running a small business, especially in a city as economically competitive as New York.


Cassie’s struggles to keep Bookland open have a tangible effect on her personal life. She delays her first date with Joel because she “can’t afford to close early” (43), knowing that “she needs the money desperately if there’s any chance of the store not going under” (43). While on the date, Cassie is anxious about Joel’s choice of sushi because she knows “she can’t afford a sushi dinner. She can barely afford ramen noodles” (47). Later, when the store is vandalized, Cassie is forced to take slow and unreliable public transportation because she can’t afford to take a taxi with “the cost of getting the store cleaned up” (177). Cassie’s constant worries about the store’s finances impact her personal life, forcing her to risk arrest by forging rare books and imposing limits on her daily existence that wealthier characters like Joel, Dean, Pete, and Lydia never have to face.

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