The Rest of Our Lives

Ben Markovits

42 pages 1-hour read

Ben Markovits

The Rest of Our Lives

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2025

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Chapter 2, Pages 111-172Chapter Summaries & Analyses

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of substance use and illness.

Chapter 2, Pages 111-172 Summary

Tom leaves Akron for South Bend to see his brother, Eric. The brothers are six years apart and have never been close. Their dad left when Eric was seven. During the following years, he and their mother developed a codependent dynamic. Tom often felt excluded from their relationship, though Eric bore the brunt of their mother’s emotional difficulties. Tom was relieved to leave home when he started college at Pomona. He sometimes felt guilty for leaving Eric but was impressed by how Eric “turned himself around” in the years that followed (114), losing weight and making his own way. Whenever Tom visited his brother thereafter, he felt a rush of anticipation. He has this same feeling again now.


The brothers spend the afternoon driving around South Bend. Eric starts by showing Tom his daughters’ school. He and his wife, Terry, divorced, and Eric has the girls part-time. He admits that he often feels trapped in his life. The brothers drive by the house where Eric used to live with Terry. Afterward, they stop at a local pub for a beer and play pool with a young woman named Sharon. As Eric gets progressively drunker, he starts flirting with Sharon. Tom feels embarrassed for his brother because he thinks Sharon is interested in him, not Eric. When Eric goes to the restroom, Tom and Sharon chat about why Tom is in South Bend and his plans to visit Denver next. Sharon suggests that she and Tom get a drink somewhere else, but he insists on getting Eric home. In the parking lot afterward, Tom is embarrassed that Eric insists on waiting for Sharon to leave to make sure she’s alright. On the ride home, the brothers argue about her. Eric is annoyed that Tom always thinks women are more interested in him.


Back at Eric’s, the brothers sit in the parking garage and discuss their futures. Tom encourages Eric to take a new job opportunity in Chicago, but he doesn’t want to move away from his daughters.


That night, Tom lies in bed thinking about his childhood and recalling when his father left. His dad told him he planned to leave, which excited Tom instead of upsetting him. He doesn’t think his father ever liked children, though he married another woman and started a new family with her. He remembers his dad dying in 2020 and his and Eric’s experience at the funeral. In their hotel room, Tom admitted to Eric that he’d known about their dad’s plans to leave when they were kids. Until then, Jill (his old girlfriend) had been the only one Tom had told about this.


The next morning, when Eric sees Tom’s swollen face, he urges Tom to see a doctor. However, Tom feels the closeness from the previous night is gone between them, and he leaves.


Back on the road, Tom imagines telling Amy about his visit with Eric. He notices that he has been having imaginary conversations with her throughout the trip. As the hours pass, he realizes how lonely the road can be. He finds himself thinking about his marriage again. Distance started to form between him and Amy when she started pressing him about having a third child. Tom didn’t want another kid, but Amy went off the pill anyway. Still, she couldn’t get pregnant. Around the same time, she began her affair with Zach. The relationship began as flirting. When Amy and Zach both participated in a conference in New York, they slept together. Amy later insisted that it would have only been a one-night thing if she hadn’t become pregnant. Zach worried that his wife would find out, but he also used the baby as leverage to keep sleeping with Amy. Confused, Amy needed someone to talk to and finally told Tom about the affair. She later miscarried.


Tom arrives at Brian’s house in Denver. Over lunch, the friends catch up. Afterward, they play basketball at the park with a few other guys. Brian announces to everyone that Tom is writing a book about basketball. They return to Brian’s afterward, where his wife, Tandy, is now home caring for their children. After dinner, the friends retreat to the billiards room, where they drink and talk. Brian opens up about his challenges with his kids. Like Tom, Brian feels that no one agrees with him. He changes the conversation to Jill, revealing that he’s been in touch with her more recently. She lives in Las Vegas with her daughter, whom she had via a sperm donor. Brian also talks about Todd Gimmell and his attempts to find signatories for the case.


Finally, Tom admits that he might have left Amy. Brian seems excited for him and suggests that Tom stay in his pool house for as long as he needs. Tandy also says he’s welcome to stay for as long as he needs.


In the morning, however, Tom parts ways with Brian and gets back on the road. He drives until he reaches Las Vegas. Eventually, he finds Jill’s house; Brian gave him her address. Jill is surprised to see him but welcomes him in and introduces him to her daughter, Katie. They all go outside to the pool. While Katie swims, Tom and Jill catch up. She’s older but still seems like herself. Afterward, Tom swims with Katie. Jill gets alarmed when Tom’s skin turns purple and urges him to get out of the pool, suggesting that they call an ambulance. Tom insists that he’s fine.


After Tom recovers, he joins Jill for a night out with her friends. The dinner is pleasant, but Tom feels emotional throughout. He can’t help imagining a future with Jill. On the drive home, Jill says she wants to sleep with him but can’t. Tom dismisses her remarks, insisting that he already knows it’d be a bad idea. Jill gets annoyed with Tom’s blasé manner, as he has always been this way. In the morning, the two say goodbye and part ways.

Chapter 2, Pages 111-172 Analysis

The longer Tom is on the road, the more time he has to reflect on his life, his choices, and his future. Throughout the latter pages of Chapter 2, his interactions with family members and old friends contribute to his ongoing personal journey. His visits with Eric, Brian, and Jill thus further the novel’s exploration of Navigating Identity in Middle Age. Much of The Rest of Our Lives explores how Tom’s past informs his life in the present. His ongoing stream of consciousness enacts his incidental work to reflect on his past to understand where he is today, and why. Reuniting with friends challenges him to reconcile his former and current versions of himself in a more hands-on manner. As a middle-aged man, Tom is coming to terms with the youthful aspirations and dreams he has left behind and trying to reconcile with how life has disappointed him. The difference between what he imagined for his life and how his life has turned out becomes more poignant with each interpersonal encounter he has.


Tom’s interactions with Eric, Brian, and Jill challenge him to confront his flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings. Tom finds himself face-to-face with the proverbial specters of his past life, who all insist that he hasn’t changed. Eric gets upset when Tom condescends to him for flirting with Sharon: “You always think women are hitting on you. […] You were always like that, even when we were kids. You always thought other people were embarrassed by us” (126). Thus, Eric sees Tom as self-involved, self-important, and condescending—traits he has observed in his brother since they were growing up. Although middle-aged in the narrative present, Tom shows little sign of having evolved, in his brother’s opinion. Similarly, Tom’s visits with Brian and Jill point to his static nature. He quickly falls back into things with Brian, even though he feels as if Brian doesn’t “even know me anymore” (150). He does little to correct Brian’s allegedly inaccurate picture of him because it’s easier to simply act “how old friends are supposed to act” (150). When Tom visits Jill, he finds himself imagining a future with her and creating a life together the way his dad created a new family with another woman, but he rapidly dismisses Jill’s emotionality as soon as she mentions sleeping together. Tom refuses to address what he’s really feeling because he wants to avoid shame and discomfort at all costs: “My main feeling was sadness,” he admits in his narration during dinner with Jill and her friends, “which I tried to cover up” (165). Because he refuses to show his true feelings, everyone (including Jill) feels that he doesn’t “really care about anything” (168) and never has. These three characters’ impressions of and impact on Tom convey how resistant he is to changing and growing. He thus risks becoming mired in middle age.


The accumulating references to Tom’s unaddressed and undiagnosed illness underscore his reluctance to confront reality. Throughout the novel, Tom has alluded to his puffy face, shortness of breath, dizzy spells, sleeplessness, and muscle fatigue. Nearly every other character also comments on Tom’s frail state, urging him to see a doctor and take his condition seriously. Nonetheless, Tom makes no move to address what’s happening with his body. In these latter pages of Chapter 2, Eric insists that Tom must “do something” when he sees how unwell Tom looks. When Jill sees Tom’s color change dramatically in the pool, she insists that she’s “calling an ambulance” and that she “thought [he was] going to die” (161). She urges him to get help, but he ignores her just as he ignored Eric, Michael, and others. Tom’s pattern of dismissing others’ concern for his condition conveys his avoidant nature. Tom is afraid of discovering the truth of what might be wrong with him because a diagnosis would compel him to make a change to get better. Tom’s physical health mirrors his emotional health, thematically emphasizing The Fear of Emotional Confrontation. Just as he doesn’t want to see another doctor to get help and attempt healing, Tom doesn’t want to admit that he caused hurt in his marriage or that his bigoted opinions endanger others because he doesn’t want to do the hard work to change.

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