The Rest of Our Lives

Ben Markovits

42 pages 1-hour read

Ben Markovits

The Rest of Our Lives

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2025

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Chapter 2, Pages 67-111Chapter Summaries & Analyses

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of substance use, sexual harassment, racism, and illness.

Chapter 2, Pages 67-111 Summary

On the way to Sam’s house, Tom recalls the history of his and Sam’s relationship. In college, Sam roomed with Ethan Konchar, whom Amy was dating at the time. Ethan was studying computer science, while Sam and Tom were English majors. Tom and Amy didn’t start dating until Ethan and Amy broke up when Ethan moved overseas for a fellowship.


Tom arrives at Sam’s Highland Park home. They spend the evening drinking wine and eating takeout. Tom tries to talk to Sam about Miri leaving home and his marriage to Amy, but Sam can’t relate because he isn’t married and doesn’t have kids. When Sam’s friend Deborah arrives, Tom realizes that they want to be alone together and dismisses himself to bed. In the room, he talks to Amy on the phone for a while. He tries telling her about Sam, but Amy wants to talk about Miri. She still regrets not coming along on the trip. In addition, she wonders if her affair with Zach impacted Michael in ways that she wasn’t aware at the time. He was about the same age she was when her father died. Skeptical of this theory, Tom asks if she has discussed this with her therapist and implies that she’s just creating a story about her life to try to make sense of it. Annoyed, Amy ends the conversation.


Tom remembers how, when he and Sam roomed together, he confided in Sam about his relationship with Amy. Sam never liked Amy and was skeptical of Tom’s desire to go to law school so that he could give Amy a nicer life. He thought Tom should write a book instead. Around that time, Tom got back in touch with his ex-girlfriend Jill McGurk. Jill, too, thought Tom should be a writer. They had dated in high school and broke up when they left for college. Despite their different lives and circumstances, Tom enjoyed talking to Jill after they split up.


In the morning, Tom runs into Deborah downstairs, and they have an awkward conversation before Tom leaves on a run. When he gets back, he and Sam talk about his and Amy’s relationship, admitting that they’re in a fight. Sam doesn’t seem to understand, but he says they should pick up the talk over lunch.


After Tom showers, he notices a missed call and voicemail from Brian. He wants Tom to consider representing another basketball player, Todd Gimmell. Todd wants to sue the league for discriminating “against white players” (85). Instead of returning Brian’s call, Tom takes a drive. He ignores several calls from Amy and turns off his phone, deciding to go without it for a while. He then decides he’ll visit his brother, Eric, in South Bend, Indiana.


Tom drives until he reaches Akron, Ohio, where he stops at a local bar for a beer. He chats with an older man and his daughter, who invites Tom to join them for a party at their house later. After leaving the bar, Tom heads to Walmart to buy some more clothes for the rest of his trip. He then stops at a local basketball court and plays a game of one-on-one with a young man. When Tom gets winded and dizzy, the man wants to take him to the hospital, but he says he’s fine.


Afterward, Tom sits in his car and calls Amy, admitting that he’s in Akron and on his way to South Bend. He says he might head to Denver from Indiana to see Brian about a new suit. He then admits that he’s on leave from the college. Irritated, Amy insists that she won’t be waiting around for Tom’s calls. On the way to a Comfort Inn, Tom recalls how much his kids loved the Comfort Inn when they were young and reflects on his relationship with Michael.


In his hotel room, Tom tries to write about basketball. He told the guy on the basketball court that he was writing a book on the sport, and he figures he may as well try his hand at the project. However, nothing he writes comes out the way he wants. He abandons the project and lies in bed thinking. Unable to sleep, he recalls an incident Amy had with one of the students in the French club she ran years ago. The student, Bianca Gertz, was in love with Amy, convinced that Amy was stuck in a loveless relationship and would be with her if she could only escape Tom. Amy kept trying to politely turn her down or ignore the crush, but Bianca’s behavior intensified over time. After she poured her heart out in a letter to Amy but received no response, Bianca took a handful of pills and collapsed during class. She was taken to the hospital, and her father threatened to sue the college. Amy was involved in the ensuing legal snafu, but Bianca’s family eventually dropped the issue. Soon after, Amy got pregnant with Michael. She quit teaching, and she and Tom married. To this day, Tom privately questions whether Amy’s side of the story was really true. He reflects on her behavior throughout their marriage, wondering about her relationship with Bianca.

Chapter 2, Pages 67-111 Analysis

After Tom drops off his daughter at college, he’s forced to confront the complexities of starting a new phase of his life. Tom’s experiences on the road and his stream-of-consciousness narration further the novel’s thematic exploration of Navigating Identity in Middle Age. The novel continues to alternate between the past and present. Being on the road by himself offers Tom long periods to reflect on his life and relationships. His reflections reveal insight into his personal life, his character flaws (and the places he has room to grow), and his unhappiness.


Tom’s decision to distance himself from Amy while on the road conveys his struggle to confront the true state of his marital relationship, highlighting the novel’s thematic examination of The Fear of Emotional Confrontation. Whereas Chapter 1 focuses on Tom and Amy’s interactions in the narrative present, which are defined by tension, disagreement, and miscommunication, Chapter 2 gives Tom time away from Amy and therefore the space to reflect on why their dynamic has evolved the way it has. Tom doesn’t feel that he can talk to Amy while he’s on the road because he’s trying to privately reconcile the woman she once was and the person she has become over the course of their relationship. Talking to her in real time threatens his insular impressions of his wife; this dynamic implies that Tom sees the real Amy as a barrier to his growth and an intrusion upon his private experience. The way Tom thinks about her is markedly lacking empathy. Tom remarks on her beauty and poise and on her disappointment with her life. However, he gives her little credit: “She has a personality that is based on being generous, cherished, and dependent on,” he remarks, but adds that “she ended up in an adult life where once the kids reached a certain age she had more hours in the day than she knew what to do with” (110). Tom recognizes Amy’s fear of being irrelevant to her children, but he extends her little grace for this poignant emotional aspect of her experience. Tom’s matter-of-fact narration implies that he’s unaffected by his wife’s unhappiness. Indeed, he has been biding his time in the marriage, desperately awaiting the day he can safely divorce Amy without hurting the children. He has stayed in the marriage because it is easier for him to blame his own stasis on his wife’s infidelity and emotional unrest, rather than making a real change in himself.


Tom’s professional conflicts provide further insight into his character, while introducing the novel’s theme of The Friction Arising from Cultural Wars. The college where Tom teaches has forced him to temporarily leave his job there because of his involvement in the culturally incendiary lawsuit for Denver Nuggets’ owner Terry Kirkland. Tom has kept this conflict a secret from his wife, which reveals his disinterest in hearing Amy’s views on the issue. He knows that Amy will disapprove of his representing Kirkland and doesn’t want to be challenged. Indeed, Tom shows no sign of reflecting on why his involvement with Kirkland might be problematic. Michael has encouraged Tom to take this time as “a chance for a complete reset, which is also a basic acknowledgement of how bad things have been—on race and gender—for a very long time” (36), but Tom has devoted no time on the road to reflecting on this subject. Instead, he obsesses over how others have wronged or misunderstood him, and he reflects on how negatively Amy’s decisions have impacted him. He evades accountability because he doesn’t “want to put [him]self in the wrong” (102).


In addition, Tom’s decisions on the road imply that he’s unaware of how his defense of bigoted white male figures impacts his relationships or the social spheres he participates in. Indeed, he announces to Amy that he’s heading to Denver to work with Brian on the Todd Gimmell case—a decision that would align him with an individual who leans toward white supremacist views. For a character who spends so much time in his own thoughts, Tom demonstrates little capacity for true self-reflection. He depicts a stereotype of the willfully ignorant white middle-aged man, who insists that he has no capacity to understand the present moment because of his age and the time in which he grew up. Meanwhile, Tom is making overt decisions to support men like himself: those who perceive equity and inclusivity as a threat to their historically guaranteed social authority. Tom’s narrative tone often errs toward self-pity, which implies that he feels like a target of contemporary culture wars and believes that his opinions unfairly marginalize him within a perceived progressive majority.

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