The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth

In Chapter 12, Peck states that creating balance in your life might feel challenging, but it is not impossible. To establish internal balance, be aware of your emotions and note when and how your feelings manifest. If you’re feeling angry, for example, find appropriate times to express this emotion, as ignoring your anger will only cause it to manifest later in harmful ways. On a broader level, know that maintaining balance requires the mental flexibility to navigate different responsibilities, needs, and desires. For example, in Peck’s life, he wanted to spend more time with his daughter, so one night, he suggested that they play chess. Wanting to win the game, he pressured her to keep playing even though she grew anxious when the game extended past her bedtime. Ultimately, she grew so upset that she burst into tears and left. Peck realized that he had prioritized winning over spending quality time with his daughter. He had to let this part of himself go in order to create a healthier relationship.

Chapter 13 states that in order to grow as an individual, you must first acknowledge that you need help. Starting psychotherapy is one way to own your weaknesses, pursue personal edification, and learn to let old parts of yourself go.