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At the heart of Tin Man is the struggle that many men face to overcome the barriers preventing them from being honest with their emotions to others. For Ellis, this struggle originates in childhood, learned from the treatment he receives from his father. As a child, Ellis is expressive and tries to demonstrate his affection for his father, only to feel “his father’s grip [tearing] into his arms and wrench[ing] them away […] [T]he pain of that memory stopped [Ellis from] reaching for him again” (29). This is a pivotal moment in Ellis’s life, when he is taught that men are not supposed to express emotion or affection, particularly toward other men. Leonard’s immediate rebuke of his young son sets a cruel, impossible boundary that complicates Ellis’s relationship with Michael later in life. While they often share intimate and loving moments in the safe confines of their rooms, Ellis’s earliest life lessons from Leonard prevent him from accepting Michael publicly or building a true romantic relationship.
While Ellis struggles to accept a life with Michael, Michael craves nothing more than to spend the rest of his life with Ellis. Michael loves Ellis, and with the primary influences of Mabel and Dora in his life, he is more comfortable than Ellis in expressing his emotions. When they travel to France and are authentically a couple for the first time, Michael understands that he must fight to keep Ellis from closing himself off. As he muses, “I knelt by the bed and thought, he’ll wake up soon and he’ll wonder what happened last night. And he’ll wonder what it means he’s become. And he’ll feel shame and the creeping shadow of his father. I know this because I know him. But I won’t let him” (136). The influence of being raised by a man like Ellis’s father is hard to break away from, and even while he is safely away from his father, in an entirely different country, Ellis still submits to the mere memory of his father’s displeasure. Michael knows that Ellis will feel shame and turn away from embracing an authentic life with him. When Leonard is described as a shadow, this image suggests that a lurking, malicious presence will always dog Ellis’s steps through life, and Michael therefore resolves to keep Ellis from neglecting his feelings like Leonard does.
Both Ellis and Michael struggle to fully understand themselves, and this behavioral pattern stems partly from the intertwined tragedies that impact their younger years: the loss of their parents and the burden of their secret love. For Ellis, these factors coincide after the death of his mother, Dora. Through his grief, he finds his love for Michael, even though he is not sure what it means. The quick change in his emotions confuses him, swinging from extremes of loss to heights of exciting discovery as the two boys share a bed and eagerly explore each other’s bodies. Despite the shame that his father has raised him to feel, Ellis finds joy and comfort in Michael, and this powerful connection softens the pain of losing his mother even as it complicates his understanding of his place in the world. While his father teaches him to be tough, Dora would always encourage Ellis and Michael to care for each other and be beautiful together. Ellis therefore struggles to determine how his relationship with Michael will influence his life if he lets it.
While Ellis faces the existential question of what his attraction to Michael ultimately means for him, Michael bears the burden of their secrecy. Michael is much more comfortable in his feelings toward Ellis, but he consistently wants more than Ellis is willing or able to give. Michael also searches for a better idea of who he is and who he can be, finding many answers to these questions in his relationship with Ellis. When the two go to France together, Michael also gains a better sense of his true identity, thinking, “I’d never felt more myself. Or more in tune to what I was and what I was capable of. A moment of authenticity when fate and blueprint collide and everything is not only possible, but within arm’s reach” (133). Michael feels as though the freedom of their trip to France shows him the person he can be without the constraints of secrecy around his sexuality. He knows what he wants, but he never has the space to test it out. In France, Michael finally experiences what is possible when he and Ellis can love each other freely. Michael describes this vision of life as being “within arm’s reach,” because in order to solidify themselves in this life, he and Ellis need only stay. However, this proves to be a challenge that even fate cannot overcome.
Both Ellis and Michael possess great love for each other, but they take different courses in life, leaving them with regrets over their failure to pursue their potential relationship to the fullest extent. Tin Man is unique in its nonlinear approach, for Winman does not depict Michael and Ellis’s love chronologically but rather through the echoing, hazy chambers of memory. The novel presents their relationship through disjointed firsthand accounts of the characters’ time together and the regret that creeps in when they are separated by circumstances, fear, or death itself at various stages of the story. From the very beginning, it is clear that Ellis struggles without Michael, whose presence is central to Ellis’s happiness. In their earlier moments of separation, Ellis realizes, “Life was not as fun without Michael. Life was not as colorful without him. Life was not life without him. If only Ellis could have told him that then maybe he would have returned” (71). The bitterness of this passage shows that Ellis loves Michael deeply but only comes to recognize that love through Michael’s absence. Without Michael, Ellis’s relationship with Annie suffers, and his life becomes unappealing. Later, when both Michael and Annie are gone forever, Ellis’s regrets eat away at him as he struggles to navigate the challenges of a lonely life without them. Because the absence that marks his love is now permanent at this point, his regret over missed opportunities is all the more severe.
Likewise, Michael’s journal entries about earlier times show that he too has always been bereft without Ellis, and even though he tries to replicate the love he feels for Ellis with others, he never achieves the same feeling. When he initially sees G, he follows the man because G reminds him of Ellis; later, as they grow closer, Michael works to transform their relationship into the life that he had always hoped to build with Ellis. Although this goal fulfills his emotional needs to a certain degree, it also gives rise to the inexpressible sadness and regret that comes with knowing that his entire life with G is merely a fabrication. As Michael himself admits, “It was everything Ellis and I had once planned. It was beautiful and, occasionally, it hurt. I told G that, and he laughed and the fantasy ended” (117). With G, Michael can pretend that he is living the life he briefly experienced in France, but jarring differences constantly remind him that his current situation is not the same and never can be. As a result, he keenly feels his long-standing regrets over his failure to tear Ellis away from the toxic influence of his father. Even when he tells G how he feels about their relationship, G’s casual dismissal of this momentous confession ruins the careful balance that Michael maintains between reality and fantasy. Whenever his current relationship fails to replicate the emotional overtones of the time he shared with Ellis, Michael is left with nothing but the harsh reality of what he can never have.



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