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Lily Calloway wakes up in the frat-house bedroom of a man whose name she doesn’t know. She gathers what clothing she can find and begins making her way out of the house, but she hears people downstairs and realizes that she will have to walk past them. Lily stands at the top of the stairs debating what to do when the doorbell rings; her best friend and pseudo-boyfriend, Loren “Lo” Hale, is there to pick her up. Lily leaves with Lo as one of the frat boys calls her a “skank” (5). They get into Lily’s family car, driven by a woman named Nola. Nola is trustworthy but still connected to their families, so they pretend to be a couple around her. Lily and Lo were childhood friends and now live together under the guise of a fake relationship. Lily has a sex addiction that she has no desire to change, and Lo has an alcohol use disorder and is rarely sober. Together, they keep their addictions a secret from their wealthy families.
On the drive home, Lo flirts with Lily and touches her; Lily never knows how to interpret Lo’s actions. She can’t tell if he’s faking things for their image or if he likes her. Lily has trouble saying “no,” so she never tells Lo to stop touching her even though it sends mixed signals. Lo lectures Lily for going to a frat house and admits that he had nightmares of her being assaulted. Nola drops Lily and Lo at their apartment, and Lo instantly takes Lily in his arms and kisses her deeply. Lily starts fantasizing about having sex with Lo, but because it previously didn’t go well, she avoids thinking about it. She gazes into his eyes, which she compares to the color of scotch. Suddenly, Lo realizes that Lily was just with another man and lets her go.
There’s no food in the apartment, and Lo lied to Lily about getting groceries. He says that he will order a pizza and tells Lily to go shower. Lily washes off the memory of the morning after sex; she loves having sex with men in the moment but hates waking up to reality the next day. Lily and Lo grew up together because their parents were friends, and Lily doesn’t see a future for Lo after college because of his drinking. After her shower, Lily walks around in a robe, and Lo pulls her onto his lap and puts his hand on her thigh. Lily can’t contain herself and puts Lo’s fingers inside of her, but Lily’s older sister, Rose, shows up unannounced. Rose comes across as hardened and cold, which Lo dislikes, and he is openly rude to her. Rose insists that Lily and Lo come to a family lunch the next day for their younger sister Daisy’s homecoming from Paris.
After Rose leaves, Lily goes to the bedroom to satisfy herself and then eats pizza with Lo. Lo already knows about Lily’s plans to go to a new club called The Blue Room and insists on going with her. Lily and Lo don’t discuss their addictions or how each of their problems affect the other person, and Lily isn’t sure what Lo’s intentions are.
Lily realized that she wasn’t like other kids when some boys came up to her in sixth grade and popped open cherry sodas, telling her they had “popped her cherry.” Lily’s father owns a huge soda company, and Lo’s father, Jonathan, owns a baby products company. Going away to college meant that Lily didn’t have to worry as much about people knowing her or her actions getting back to her parents.
At The Blue Room, Lily has sex with a man in the bathroom and then finds Lo at the bar. Lo looks agitated and rudely tells a girl who is hitting on him to go away. When the same man Lily just slept with approaches her at the bar, Lily is mortified because she never sleeps with the same man twice. He tries to talk to her and get her number, but because Lily struggles to tell men “no,” Lo steps in and tells him to go away. Lily thanks Lo, but she is embarrassed. She drives him home, and Lo drinks until he passes out.
The next morning, Lily finds her old phone in a purse and discovers a message from Rose indicating that Lo’s father will be at the lunch. Lily panics and goes into Lo’s bedroom to wake him up. He doesn’t respond, so Lily drags Lo into the shower and starts taking off his clothes. She worries about Lo dying in his sleep one night. As Lo slowly wakes up and remembers where he is, Lily helps him bathe, and then he dresses. When Lo hears that his father will be at the lunch, he suddenly becomes alert and heads out the door.
Lily and Lo are slightly late to the lunch, but both of their parents arrive much later. As they wait, they sit with Lily’s three sisters, Daisy (youngest), Rose (second eldest), and Poppy (eldest), along with Poppy’s husband, Sam, and their daughter, Maria. Daisy brings a book with her Paris fashion week photos, and Lily is shocked to see one of Daisy, who is 15, wearing nothing but a suit jacket and nude underwear. Lo disapproves and tries to tell Daisy that she’s too young for this type of photography, but Daisy insists that her mother encouraged it. When Lily’s parents and Lo’s father arrive, they talk amongst themselves at first, but then the discussion turns to Lily and Lo’s schooling. When Rose mentions that she thinks Lily is hiding something and saw her coming out of a pregnancy clinic a month ago, Lily is shocked that Rose would announce it in front of everyone. She becomes upset, and Lo takes her to the bathroom, where Poppy soon follows. Poppy tries to tell Lily that Rose is going through a difficult time in her life and that the family feels like Lily is forgetting them. She reminds Lily that she is always there for her; Lily sits on these words, unable to say more than thanks.
Lily sits in an economics class with Lo and thinks about how it would be nice to have a specific talent and direction in life. She takes notes for a while but soon gets bored. She decides to watch pornography on her laptop without sound. Lo asks Lily if she’s had sex with any of the students at the lecture, and she can see two that she has slept with. Lily feels ashamed and answers that she isn’t sure. She bugs Lo and tells him that he needs to “get laid,” and Lo returns the joke by telling Lily that she needs a drink. Lily’s finger slips on her keyboard, and she accidentally turns her laptop volume on, causing the whole class to fall silent. Lily’s laptop freezes, and she can’t turn the video off, so she slams it shut. Lily’s professor talks to her after class and tells her that she needs to start taking notes with a pen and paper instead.
Lily goes to a ballet with her sisters but thinks about having sex with the dancers the whole time. When she gets home, she sees a man in the elevator and fantasizes about him. Inside the apartment, Lily can hear Lo having sex with someone loudly and suddenly feels jealous. She checks her phone and is reminded that she is going dress shopping with her sisters the next day.
The novel opens with Lily waking up from another anonymous one-night stand and a feeling of shame and disgust in herself for being unable to control her impulses. This opening presents a clear picture of Lily’s sex addiction and its effects on her self-worth: “I love the sex. It’s the after part that I haven’t quite figured out yet” (19). This declaration is not necessarily one of female empowerment or sexual liberation, as Lily’s sexual urges are debilitating and affecting other areas of her life. She struggles to find the balance between what is a healthy level of desire and a compulsive lifestyle. Lily’s sex addiction is intertwined directly with an overarching negative and objectified view of women, demonstrating The Relationship Between Sex and Misogyny. The men that Lily encounters see her as an object, and she views them similarly. Lily has memories of water splashing on her and being told to take her bra off by members of a fraternity, having “popped cherry” jokes made toward her in grade school, and seeing photos of inebriated girls lining the door of the frat house. Because Lily has trouble saying “no” to herself or to anyone else, and because her main focus is sex, she neglects the other areas of her life, like her family and her health. Lily gets caught watching porn in class, and her sister sees her exiting a pregnancy clinic: It is clear that her efforts to keep her addiction a secret are failing.
Alongside her own personal struggles, Lily is also in a complicated situation with Lo. It is clear from how she sees and thinks about him that she wants more than friendship, as every time he teases her, she fantasizes. She describes Lo as having “cheekbones that cut like ice and eyes like liquid scotch. Loren Hale is an alcoholic beverage and he doesn’t even know it” (5). This metaphor suggests how Lo’s addiction is inseparable from his identity in Lily’s eyes, foreshadowing how his drinking will complicate their relationship. It is as though Lo is defined by his alcohol consumption, to the point where it has become a part of him.
Lo and Lily communicate ineffectively, which leads to constant confusion about their feelings toward one another; Lo reacts poorly when Lily sleeps with someone else but doesn’t actually tell her how he feels. There are also undertones of trauma in Lo’s life, which foreshadow the revelation that he drinks to escape painful memories of his past and difficult present situations, like his relationship with his father. These unspoken traumas align with The Precarious Nature of Addiction, illustrating how neither character is equipped to confront their problems head-on.
Lily and Lo’s relationship is, in some ways, based on a genuine foundation of trust, companionship, and familiarity. In other ways, it is a relationship based on falsehoods and deception, as well as enabling and manipulative behavior. This duality reflects The Truths and Lies of Love, where genuine care and affection coexist with unhealthy dependency. They are both dependent on each other and must each feel needed, and together, they create a somewhat stereotypical romantic relationship between people with addictions. Lo is affectionate and possessive with Lily but never says how he feels, so his on-off advances and aversion to her sleeping with other men seem to take advantage of what he knows about Lily’s sexual compulsions. Lily never knows how to interpret Lo’s actions, and she navigates this confusion by seeking sexual validation elsewhere. She cannot distinguish between real love and faked affection: “It’s part of our lie, I remind myself. This isn’t real. But it feels real. His hands on me. His warmth on my soft skin” (13). Lily also observes her own persona changing around Lo, as she becomes awkward and insecure in his presence. Lily and Lo work to keep each other’s problems hidden from their families by pretending to be in a functional relationship. They isolate themselves from the world, and because they enable one another, they aggravate each other more than they provide help. Lily sees this when she thinks, “His addiction is screwing with my addiction. Alcohol trumps sex in this place, and that kills me” (37). This interplay between their addictions underscores the precarious nature of addiction, where proximity to another’s struggle can worsen one’s own.



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