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In February 2017, during Sloane’s birthday week, Ethan drives Sloane to Outback Steakhouse. She wants to believe he’s her soulmate, which would explain why her previous relationships didn’t work out. He suggests that they stop on the road for a “quickie,” which makes Sloane uncomfortable. It makes her think he only wants sex, not a deep emotional connection.
Over dinner, he orders a bottle of wine that Sloane doesn’t like, but she doesn’t say anything. He dodges questions about his past, refusing to tell her when his birthday is. They return to Sloane’s apartment for a surprise party Lauren organized. The group goes bar-hopping, and Ethan grows distant. He hands Sloane a shot, and she gets sick. Graham and Lauren take her home while Ethan stays out.
The next morning, Graham brings a hangover kit and tells Sloane that Ethan often puts himself first. Sloane calls Ethan, who apologizes but asks for space. Days later, he texts to talk. They meet in his car in the rain, and he ends the relationship, saying she deserves better. Sloane lies, telling him that she’s fine with the way things are now, but it doesn’t help. Later, Lauren and Jordan comfort a sobbing Sloane at their apartment.
After the breakup, Ethan feels he hurt Sloane but believes it was necessary. He thinks about how much he wanted to tell her about his past but couldn’t work up the courage. He opens Facebook and looks at his mother’s profile; Laura Brady has remarried and has a daughter he has never met. He misses Sloane but distracts himself on Facebook. The next morning, he tells Graham and Jake that he ended things because he isn’t ready for a relationship. He leaves campus earlier than usual to avoid running into Sloane.
A month later, in March 2017, Sloane thinks about how much she’s moved on from Ethan. Lauren convinces Sloane to attend a fraternity formal with Reese Thompson, but returning to the fraternity triggers thoughts about Ethan. She goes anyway but is constantly on the lookout. At the bar before the event, Sloane and Ethan have a brief encounter, which prompts her to drink heavily throughout the night.
Reese takes her to his place to sleep it off and drives her home the next morning. Her roommates tell her Ethan attended the formal alone and asked about her. Sloane texts Ethan, and they meet in his car. He admits seeing her with someone else made him jealous and asks to try again, slowly and without labels. Sloane agrees, and they tentatively renew contact.
In April 2017, as graduation approaches, Lauren announces she has accepted a teaching job in New York and has broken up with Graham. At a luau-themed party, Ethan is attentive and affectionate with Sloane. She takes Lauren home early, then returns to the party. Later, she goes to Ethan’s apartment, and they have sex in his kitchen. The next morning, Sloane receives a voicemail from Annie Walker at The Gist. Annie tells Sloane her writing lacks emotional depth but offers her an interview for an assistant position with mentorship opportunities. Sloane accepts the interview.
In May 2017, after accepting the assistant position at The Gist, Sloane packs for her move to New York. She thinks about how writing is her passion and how journaling kept her grounded as an only child with few friends and “without a steady place to call home” (111). On her last day, Ethan plans a farewell and takes her to Kure Beach. They picnic and reminisce about their year together. That evening, they eat at their favorite Mexican restaurant, and Sloane cries about the uncertainty ahead. On the drive home, Ethan reassures her, promising to visit in a month. He books a plane ticket, implying that he wants them to remain exclusive until then, which reassures her. Sloane feels hopeful about their long-distance relationship.
During her first week at The Gist in New York City, Sloane orients herself to the office and meets her colleagues Kim and Mila. Mila invites Sloane to happy hour with the team, and Sloane joins them. At the bar with Annie and other coworkers, a tipsy Sloane tells the story of how she met Ethan, including a time she called the police on his party because he didn’t invite her. On the ride home, she worries she revealed too much to new colleagues.
In June 2017, Ethan visits Sloane in New York. After an intimate reunion, they go to dinner, where he mentions having money problems. The next day, she takes him to a Yankees game. When she takes a photo of them, he asks her not to post it, which upsets Sloane.
They have sex again in the morning because Sloane knows how much Ethan likes morning sex. He leaves, and hours later, Ethan ends their relationship via text. Sloane calls, yells at him, and throws her phone against a wall. Later, Lauren returns to find her devastated and stays to comfort her.
Ethan immediately regrets the breakup but goes to a party with Graham to distract himself. He explains he ended things because he cannot give Sloane what she needs and admits she is the only girl he has ever let get close. At the party, he plays beer pong and leaves with a girl named Jamie, who is dressed provocatively. At her house, he checks his phone for a message from Sloane but finds none. He and Jamie have unfulfilling sex. Afterward, Ethan feels numb.
The day after the breakup, Sloane calls in sick and phones Graham to ask why Ethan keeps pulling away. Graham explains that when Ethan was 13, his parents were arrested for a fatal DUI; his father received a long prison sentence, and his mother, Laura, later left him and started a new family. Sloane now understands Ethan’s fear of commitment stems from this abandonment. She returns to work to find flowers from Annie, who urges her to use the heartbreak to add emotional depth to her writing. She and Mila brainstorm story ideas, and she channels her pain into her work.
In September 2017, Sloane focuses on her work at The Gist. Her open letter about her almost-relationship with Ethan, titled “Open Letter to the Guy Who Didn’t Want to Date Me,” goes viral. Her boss, Annie, promotes her to staff writer after the piece hits one million reads. Sloane celebrates with Lauren at a piano bar, admitting she hoped Ethan would see the article. Reese messages Sloane after reading her article, and Lauren encourages her to reply. Sloane meets Reese at a bar, where Reese admits he has long had feelings for her and kisses her. Sloane kisses him back.
This section confronts the theme of Defining Self-Worth Beyond a Relationship Label by framing Sloane’s emotional state as contingent on Ethan’s commitment. During their first breakup, her question, “Am I not enough?” (85), reveals the extent to which she has conflates her value with his affection. Her willingness to accept him back on his non-committal terms illustrates this dependency; she settles for a fraction of him because she believes it is better than nothing. This pattern continues during Ethan’s New York visit, where his refusal to let her post a photo on social media serves as a warning sign of his inability to commit. The subsequent breakup via text message culminates all the moments of uncertainty and foreshadowing that preceded it and pushes Sloane to a turning point.
The counterweight to Ethan’s rejection in these chapters is Sloane’s blossoming writing career. The early chapters usually alternate evenly between Sloane and Ethan’s perspectives, but in this section, Chapters 11-17 and 19-20 focus on Sloane’s journey. Only after getting her job at The Gist does Sloane begin to internalize a measure of self-worth that doesn’t rely on her relationship status with Ethan. Sloane’s editor, Annie, is a key catalyst in these chapters, alerting Sloane that her work lacks emotional depth and providing a pathway for Sloane’s transformation by reframing her heartbreak as a source of inspiration. This transition shows Sloane that she can determine her self-worth through her professional and creative pursuits, regardless of others’ feelings about her.
The narrative uses Ethan’s perspective in these chapters to explore The Lingering Effects of Childhood Trauma on Intimacy. His brief point-of-view chapters—Chapters 12 and 18—offer insight into his internal state, preventing him from becoming a one-dimensional antagonist. In Chapter 12, his act of viewing his estranged mother’s Facebook profile provides a clear explanation for his behavior. The image of his mother with a new family, a life from which he is excluded, represents the source of his fear of attachment. His actions—emotional withdrawal, his repeated insistence that he cannot give Sloane what she deserves, and his eventual admission of having personal problems—are all manifestations of this core trauma. Graham’s revelation in Chapter 19 about the arrest of Ethan’s parents and his mother’s subsequent desertion reveals this backstory to Sloane, at once providing insight and showing how much he’s withheld from her during the previous year. Sloane realizes that intimacy activates Ethan’s deepest fears of being abandoned and that his pattern of sabotaging the relationship is a trauma response, and because of this, she allows her feelings for him to linger. The text doesn’t judge whether Sloane is right or wrong in her response, but it does show her moving on to a new, apparently healthier relationship with Reese.
This shift critiques The Fallacy of Saving a Partner Through Love, a romanticized narrative that media and popular culture often reinforce. At first, Sloane embodies the archetype of the partner who believes her love is enough to heal her beloved’s wounds, a conviction revealed when she thinks, “I could be the one if he just let me” (85). This sentiment reflects a belief that if she is patient and loving enough, she can inspire Ethan to change. Each time she accepts him back without evidence of his emotional growth, she engages in one-sided emotional labor, subordinating her needs to maintain the connection. However, the narrative demonstrates that this strategy is useless against trauma that Ethan is unwilling to address himself. His final breakup via text is the rude awakening Sloane needs: Despite her love and forgiveness, Ethan remains trapped by his past, proving that her affection cannot single-handedly resolve someone else’s deep-seated psychological issues. True change must be self-motivated, and rest of the novel shows Sloane embarking on that path herself.



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