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Romancing Mister Bridgerton
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Themes
The Bonding Power of Friendship
Friendship is a key part of the novel’s key romantic trope, the friends-to-lovers plot arc; it also serves as a framework for other relationships. Quinn suggests that friendship is an essential aspect of bonds between family members, between acquaintances and allies, and, perhaps most importantly, between married couples.
Feeling seen and accepted is a desire that several characters in the novel express at varying points. Penelope has been hurt by feeling invisible in society; she stands on the fringes of balls and parties, listening and gathering information for Lady Whistledown’s columns while she pretends to enjoy herself. In her real life, only her few but important friendships offer Penelope an avenue for her true personality to be witnessed, acknowledged, and admired.
Friendships strengthen when characters confide hurts and acknowledge vulnerabilities. For example, Penelope admits her deeply held wish for marriage and a family to her good friends Colin and Eloise, who make similar revelations to her. Colin allows himself to be vulnerable when he chooses to share his journals with Penelope and see her opinion about his writing. Eloise is vulnerable when she admits that she has always assumed that she and Penelope would continue as unmarried “spinsters” together and expresses a concern that Colin will replace Eloise as the most important person in Penelope’s life. However, Penelope assures Eloise that they will remain friends even after they marry, dismissing the idea that one’s romantic partner should be their primary emotional support system, confidante, and ally and that other friendships should become secondary to that bond. Events in the Second Epilogue prove Penelope correct: Friendships are not relegated, but rather continue to evolve even as other bonds form.
The banter and loyalty among the Bridgerton siblings show how friendship affects familial bonds. The siblings understand one another, are aware of each other’s strengths and weaknesses, are loyal, and help one another navigate emotional struggles, as when Colin consults Daphne about how to know he’s in love and his brothers about finding purpose. This friendship and acceptance account for the close bonds among the family. Penelope—who doesn’t have the same closeness with her sisters—envies Colin, confirming the power of friendship to validate and connect.
Finally, Quinn argues that the esteem and amity of friendship are fertile ground for the development of affection. Colin and Penelope’s romantic attraction begins in friendly exchanges and support at social events. Penelope seeks acknowledgement, acceptance, and companionship from Colin first as a friend. Their relationship moves forward when they are both emotionally honest, vulnerable, accepting, and approving of one another. This suggests, ultimately, that the partnership, cooperation, mutual dependence, and shared growth that come with deep friendship are as fundamental to a rewarding and enjoyable marriage as attraction and admiration—a value system likely to be shared by Quinn’s readers.
The Allure and Danger of Secrets
In the novel, the discovery of hidden information and the ramifications of revelation explore the power of secrets to compel, attract, and ruin in a world where much value is placed on outward appearances.
Secrets, as Quinn shows, have the same appeal as gossip, being predicated on the desire to possess rare knowledge about the others in one’s social world and to not be excluded by not knowing. The “ton” lives for Lady Whistledown because she informs them of goings-on at social events that they might have missed. They place value on her assessments—but also, more importantly, on her revelations. For instance, her advance warning about which eligible Bridgerton brothers plan to attend which ball triggers a cascade of potentially marriageable young women guests. Knowledge is a way to secure or advance one’s social standing in a world where social standing means everything; not having the correct knowledge can pose a significant barrier to one’s opportunities and future.
Keeping a secret, then, is about controlling what others know and about self-preservation against possible judgment or condemnation. Colin keeps his journals a secret because he fears potentially revealing to others that his writing is boring or banal. For even more dramatically important and defensive reasons, Penelope keeps her identity as Lady Whistledown hidden: In this guise, she has insulted various powerful people, gossiped, and been engaged in writing for money, all of which would invite condemnation. This disapproval would lead to social ruin; Penelope would be ejected from the ton, which would ostracize her from her social world and community. The power of Penelope’s secret is best illustrated by Cressida Twombley’s threat of blackmail: Cressida knows the ramifications of revelation in Penelope’s case, so she gleefully forecasts catastrophe unless Penelope pays up.
The allure of discovering secrets is demonstrated by the excitement that meets Lady Danbury’s reward of £1,000 to the person who unmasks Lady Whistledown. This provides a source of conflict (and humor) as characters suspect one another, but these suspicions also point to the ways that even familiar people can have secret sides. Similarly, the eventual announcement that Lady Whistledown is Penelope disarms Cressida’s threat and sidesteps the potential for ruin by transforming the power of secrets into the delight of solved mystery. Relying on their social standing, Lady Danbury and Violet underscore the delight of exposure and thus subtly extinguish its potentially ruinous effects.
Being unafraid to show more of her personality becomes an important element of Penelope’s character arc—spurred, in large part, by Lady Danbury’s challenge. However, learning the secrets of others she cares about—Colin’s hidden aspirations for purpose, for example, and Eloise’s secret suitor—also becomes a way that Penelope deepens her relationships with those she is closest to. While secrets can inhibit trust and companionship, shared secrets have the power to bond and connect, just as the ability to be fully seen and acknowledged advances friendship and self-confidence.
The Power of Outward Appearances
Part of the appeal of the Regency romance as a subgenre rests on the drama and conflict inherent in a social world where one’s standing depends less on individual personality or accomplishments than on a tightly ordered social hierarchy. As Penelope’s and Colin’s character arcs show, tension between what the outside world perceives and how an individual feels can be a source of anguish. Similarity, restrictions on one’s ability to express oneself can limit happiness, maturity, and growth.
Quinn subverts several archetypes that are typical of the romance genre. Penelope, because she is not considered fashionable or attractive, diminishes into a wallflower, unpopular and unadmired. The romance fate of the wallflower is to discover a discerning suitor who looks closely enough at the wallflower to discover her talents and appreciate her beauty. However, both of these tropes are altered in the novel. There is dissonance between Penelope’s outward appearance as the spinster Featherington daughter and her life as Lady Whistledown, the tartly witty scourge of high society. Similarly, Colin doesn’t solely admire Penelope’s looks but instead acknowledges her cleverness, wit, and good nature before remarking on his growing attraction to her. Colin also initially appears to be a version of the man-about-town type; even Penelope, as Lady Whistledown, sums him up as little more than a handsome and charming dilettante. In reality, however, Colin has depths that he would like to share with the world: He not only traveled around Europe to escape boredom but also chronicled his adventures in a lively travelogue.
The alternative to being shaped by outside assumptions that flatten into stereotypes is to be seen, known, and cherished by a small group of family, friends, and one’s romantic partner. Colin and Penelope’s relationship flowers when they look past what they have always assumed of the other, witness one another’s vulnerabilities, and shore up one another’s strengths.
Being seen by her close circle eventually makes Penelope brave enough to show a more nuanced version of herself to the world. After Cressida’s attempted blackmail, Penelope wants to retreat: “After nearly a dozen years of pretending she was nothing more than the wallflowerish Penelope Featherington, she’d be used to play roles and hiding her true self” (340). In addition to not wishing to concede to Cressida’s manipulations, Penelope no longer wants to hide what she’s done as Lady Whistledown. Encouraged by Colin’s approval, she is ready to reveal her deeper dimensions outwardly, much as it might oppose the assumptions that have been made about her. In part, this confidence comes from her newfound social security as a member of the Bridgerton family; also, Colin’s devotion strengthens her sense of self. Outward assumptions may carry a great deal of weight in large social networks, but within personal relationships, the value of the inner person matters most, in this novel in particular and in the Regency romance in general.
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