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During their Easter gathering in 1975, Bridget asks if Ben is a “mongol,” and Harriet tells her to use the term “Down syndrome” instead, despite privately using the outdated and now-derogatory term herself. Harriet declares that there’s nothing “wrong” with Ben. Bridget leaves and never returns. Fewer guests visit during the summer and Christmas holidays. When Ben is over a year old, he outgrows his isolation in his room and screams from his barred windows. He spends more time downstairs, but everyone avoids him. Ben strangles a dog, and later a cat, to death, and Harriet struggles to keep an eye on him. One day, Ben runs out into the street. Harriet chases after him but wishes that he would be run over. Dr. Brett disbelieves Harriet’s stories of Ben’s behavior and tells her that he is physically healthy but “hyperactive.” He disapproves of administering drugs, but Harriet secretly wants to sedate Ben. In the evenings, she locks Ben in his room and bars the door. Dorothy offers to watch Ben for a week so that the family can take a vacation without him. When they return, Dorothy is bruised and declares that Ben must be placed in an institution.
Harriet and David resume having sex. Harriet thinks about how terrified women must have been of an unwanted pregnancy before birth control was available. Ben consumes all her time and energy, but Paul throws fits when Harriet does not have time for him. The following Christmas, Sarah and her daughter, Amy, visit. Harriet rejects the idea that she, unlike Sarah, has done anything to deserve her misfortune. Ben is never left alone with Amy for her safety. Harriet wonders if Ben has a disability or sees himself as similar to Amy. She wonders, “What [i]s he?” (67). When he is two years old, Ben begins speaking; his first words are “I want cake” (68). He observes his siblings to learn how to mimic their behaviors, but his actions seem unnatural. Harriet believes that things are getting easier, but Dorothy confronts her to say that she has neglected her other children and David because of Ben.
When Ben is three, Harriet catches him threatening a dog. Relatives tell her that Ben must be placed in an institution. Harriet’s other sister, Angela, accuses them of being rich and callous for considering such a thing but also agrees that Ben should be committed. Without a diagnosis for Ben’s condition, they must look for an institution where they can essentially abandon him. Harriet reluctantly agrees in tears. Harriet and David watch their other children playing in the yard and admire their sense of wildness and adventure. The couple reminisce about their own childhood freedom. When Ben is taken away in a van within the week, David and the children feel relief, having never felt that Ben belonged with them. Harriet, riddled with guilt and horror, decides to visit Ben.
At the institution, Harriet sees other children with disabilities and physical differences confined and drugged in a ward. She finds Ben naked, drugged to unconsciousness, and in a strait jacket in a padded, soiled room. She decides to take him home. The attendants gently wash Ben, advise Harriet to keep him in the strait jacket for the long ride home, and give her a syringe with ampules. Ben is the strongest child they’ve encountered, but he would not have lived long at the institution since the powerful sedatives would have eventually killed him.
Harriet returns home to the children’s tears and David’s anger. She tells them that the place was murdering Ben, and David retorts that this was the point. Harriet routinely sedates Ben until he relearns his social skills. She uses a mixture of threats and reason to get him to comply. David disavows Ben and is only concerned with whom he terms his “real children.” Harriet wants to re-integrate Ben in the family but knows that they feel like she has chosen Ben over them.
Ben readapts to his siblings but never trusts David again. Ben bonds with a young man named John who comes to the house to do yard work. John is kind, patient, and the only person Ben trusts. Harriet hires John to take care of Ben until he starts primary school in two years. Ben spends all day away from the house with John and John’s friends, a group of unemployed young men who do odd jobs and take Ben on motorbike rides. Harriet and David attempt to reconnect by going on a vacation alone. Harriet starts taking birth control pills, though this makes them feel like they have betrayed their conviction to not tamper with nature. When Harriet suggests having more children, David accuses her of neglecting the other four she already has, especially Paul, who has developed behavioral issues.
That summer, Harriets coaxes her relatives to visit, assuring them that Ben will not be around. John and his friends are rough with Ben but accept him, often taking him on excursions at the Lovatts’ expense. Although they call him names like “Dopey” and “Hobbit,” they make Ben feel safe and happy and treat him as their mascot. Ben is no longer locked in his bedroom at night, but his siblings lock their own doors, ostensibly locking out Harriet as well. Harriet wonders what Ben thinks about when he looks at her.
The narrative challenges readers to question whether Harriet’s assessment of Ben is real or imagined. From her perspective, he seems to take glee in hurting others and directing hatred toward her. To Harriet, Ben’s increasingly violent behavior is evidence that he is an aberration from human nature, but she cannot confirm this assessment. At times, Harriet observes her enigmatic son and thinks, “[I]n the half dark of the room he really did look like a little troll or a hobgoblin crouching there” (63). Other times, Ben’s threatening demeanor is based solely on her impression of his proclivities. Harriet observes, “What was natural to him, it seemed, in the way of amusement was his hostile-looking teeth-bared grin, that looked hostile” (69). Despite her suspicions, Harriet admits that Ben’s mind is a mystery to her. She “c[an]not read the look in those cold yellow-green eyes. But then she never could!” (66). Harriet can only make assumptions about Ben’s intentions, and as a character with a possibly unreliable perspective, she may be projecting her own resentment and hostility toward the child.
Lessing strategically leaves Ben’s perspective out of the omniscient narration to maintain the ambiguity. Neither Harriet nor the reader knows if Ben thinks of her as his mother, how his isolation and abandonment affect him, or how he feels about his siblings. Harriet continually wonders how he sees the world: “Sometimes it seemed to her that she spent her life trying to understand what Ben was feeling, thinking” (66-67). Harriet’s desire to know and understand her son, while acknowledging her own limitations, distinguishes her from the rest of the family, who are content to simply erase him.
Ben is a figure of otherness, alien and undefinable by the conventions of society, particularly of middle-class values. Dorothy tells Harriet, “He may be normal for what he is. But he is not normal for what we are” (65). David more forcefully asserts that Ben does not belong and gives Harriet the ultimatum, “It’s either him or us” (69). Though no one claims to know what Ben is, they are certain that they know what he is not. Ben functions as the antithesis to suburban middle-class values of conformity, leisure, and respectability, and for that, he must be expelled so that the family can return to “normal.”
With Ben gone, the Lovatts resume the fairy-tale-like perfection of their “good old days” before he existed; the hyperbolic depiction of the family’s idyll suggests a level of performativity key to Exposing the Myth of the Ideal Family. The children’s “eyes sh[i]ne, they [a]re full of high spirits, and they ke[ep] coming to Harriet with little gifts of a sweet or a toy, ‘This is for you, Mummy.’ Or they rush[] up to kiss her, or stroke her face, or nuzzle to her like happy calves or foals” (77). In this passage, nature imagery returns not as a threatening, shadowy force but as allusions to pastural bliss, where the calves and foals symbolize innocence, affection, and new beginnings. Harriet is rewarded for banishing Ben, but she refuses to lose herself in the fantasy of the ideal family and can’t stop thinking of the reality that Ben “[i]s a prisoner somewhere. What kind of a prisoner?” (77). The family’s return to a golden past seems all the more disturbing and cruel given their knowledge that they have essentially sent Ben to his death: When Harriet defends bringing Ben home by declaring, “But they were murdering him,” David coldly responds, “I thought that was the idea” (87). Harriet has fantasized about ways to be rid of Ben, and Ben has committed disturbing acts of violence, but the novella’s most understated horrors are the other family members’ callous indifference to Ben’s suffering and the way they condone eliminating him for not fitting their image of a model child.
Harriet’s refusal to abandon Ben and her attempts to integrate him into the family challenge The Social Construction of Normality and Otherness. Ben may be rejected by his father and siblings, but he is neither incorrigible nor as antisocial as they claim. Harriet recognizes opportunities for Ben to fit in; with John and his friends, Ben finds a pseudo-family where he experiences “safety and enjoyment” (95). Their nicknames for him, though derogatory, do not disavow his difference, and the group does not try to assimilate Ben into a “normal” persona, allowing him to find belonging and acceptance. John’s friends are frequently described as unemployed youths, a comment on their own status as social misfits and the set of negative stereotypes attributed to them.



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