You Deserve Each Other

Sarah Hogle

50 pages 1-hour read

Sarah Hogle

You Deserve Each Other

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2020

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Prologue-Chapter 3Chapter Summaries & Analyses

Prologue Summary

Naomi is on a date with Nicholas at a drive-in theater. Though it’s only their second date, Naomi is falling fast, and she desperately hopes he’ll kiss her, both because she wants to kiss him and so all her makeup and hairspray don’t go to waste. When the movie’s over, Nicholas tells Naomi she’s beautiful and leans in for the long-awaited kiss. It’s everything Naomi dreamed, and she ends the chapter thinking it’s “a magical, extraordinary night” (6).

Chapter 1 Summary

A year and nine months later, Naomi and Nicholas are engaged and miserable. Naomi gets a ride home from her job at the Junk Yard (an oddities shop) from her coworker Leon on a rainy night—her car has a flat tire and she’s refused to ask Nicholas to change it because she’s claimed to be able to do all her car maintenance for months and won’t give him the satisfaction of catching her in a lie. She knows he’s suspicious, though, which infuriates her because “he should assume that all of [her] lies are true” (11).


Naomi hopes Nicholas won’t be home when she gets there, silently grousing about how attentive he is to his overbearing mother, Deborah, every day. When Leon pulls into their driveway, Nicholas has just arrived, and Naomi prays he doesn’t notice her very obvious flat tire. Brandy, one of Naomi’s coworkers, hosts a game night every Friday, and Leon asks Nicholas if he’ll join them this time. Naomi scoffs because Nicholas never attends, but he says he’ll be there just to spite her. Leon drives away, calling goodbye to Naomi, and the kindness in his voice makes Naomi freeze. For almost two years, she’s been trying to change herself to become the wife she believes Nicholas wants instead of who she is, and the kindness in Leon’s voice makes her feel like her old self again, even if only for a moment.

Chapter 2 Summary

Inside the house, Nicholas gripes about his car, work, and a handful of other things. Naomi tunes him out, nodding and smiling at important points while she tries to hold herself together. The wedding is in three months. Rather than excited, she feels like she’s hurtling toward a future she doesn’t want. Nicholas proposed after 11 months of dating. The two moved in together shortly after, and ever since, Naomi has felt like “signing up for Boyfriend Nicholas and inheriting Fiancé Nicholas later on was some legitimate bait-and-switch” (19).


Nicholas continues griping about his boss, who says he never goes above and beyond. Naomi silently agrees. She’s hurt that Nicholas didn’t get her a gift for their anniversary or Valentine’s Day—he claimed that their love is so real that they don’t need to mark it with frivolous occasions. Naomi notes that he does get gifts for his mother regularly. Nicholas decides to show up his boss by bringing in homemade cookies the next day, even though he isn’t scheduled to work this month’s Saturday shift. Though he knows tonight is Naomi’s game night, he asks her to bake some cookies. When Naomi says no, Nicholas preheats the oven and gets out mixing bowls for her.


Naomi suggests he ask his mother to bake cookies for him. In response, Nicholas tells her Deborah took care of fixing last-minute measurements for the flower girl’s dress, emphasizing that they should both be “just so glad, that they’re able to help us out” (26). Since Nicholas’s mother vetoed the wedding dress Naomi wanted and offered maid-of-honor to Nicholas’s sister, Naomi is not grateful at all. At this point, though, she’s too prideful to back out and look like a failure, so she puts up with Nicholas’s attitude and his parents’ passive aggressiveness, taking comfort in the knowledge that she makes Nicholas as miserable as he makes her.

Chapter 3 Summary

Game night is full of tension that Naomi tries and fails to smooth over. While Brandy and Leon don’t mind Nicholas, Zach and Melissa, Naomi’s other coworkers, can’t stand him. In particular, Zach gets under Nicholas’s skin, telling him he enjoys being “an asshole.” Nicholas rebuts by calling the Junk Yard a failure. Zach reminds him that Naomi works there too, which Nicholas dismisses by saying, “I make plenty of money. Naomi doesn’t need a job” (36). At this, Naomi is no longer able to pretend she’s the perfect, in-love fiancée. She casually suggests she could move to another town to work for a diner her employers own if the Junk Yard closes, and her friends look at her as if she’s a new person who’s grown a backbone.


At home, Nicholas acts jovial, as if the argument at game night never happened, leaving Naomi to swallow her anger so she doesn’t look petty. She reminds herself of the computer file she has with the reasons she loves him, but they feel worn out and don’t help rekindle her feelings. Nicholas informs her that his mother changed the flowers for their wedding and then asks Naomi if there’s anything she wants to tell him or back out of. Naomi realizes Nicholas has been using his mother as a weapon against her to force her to call off the wedding so he doesn’t have to be the bad guy. At once, Naomi loses any remaining love she has for him, but she doesn’t call off the wedding because “[her] engagement to Nicholas Rose is a game of chicken” (48).

Prologue-Chapter 3 Analysis

Hogle’s Prologue sets up a stark contrast between Nicholas and Naomi’s chemistry at the start of their relationship and their thinly veiled disdain in Chapter 1, establishing the lovers-to-enemies-to-lovers plot trajectory. The contrast between the Prologue’s shining, shimmering aura of new love and the bitter disconnect between the couple in Chapter 1 encapsulates how the intervening months have shifted their relationship. Both Naomi and Nicholas have stopped putting the necessary work into their connection, highlighting The Destructive Nature of Poor Communication in Romantic Partnerships. As a result, neither understands the other, but both expect the other to understand them, leading to disappointment, resentment, and estrangement. This enmity between Naomi and Nicholas defines the central question that propels the narrative forward: Will the couple find their way back to each other, or will they go their separate ways?


Throughout the novel, Hogle connects the breakdown of communication in Naomi and Nicholas’s relationship to their loss of personal identity, underscoring The Importance of Living Authentically as a key theme in the story. Their inability to communicate in these opening chapters allows bitterness to set in—the catalyst for the battle of wills that proceeds throughout much of the book. For example, Nicholas’s tendency to complain and focus on the negative causes Naomi to withdraw as a coping mechanism. She doesn’t think he cares about her feelings, so she refuses to engage emotionally, which, in turn, makes Nicholas angry—a cyclical pattern of hurt and resentment in which neither feels they can be their true self with the other. Without healthy communication, Hogle suggests, Naomi and Nicholas’s connection sours, turning them from lovers to enemies. 


Hogle uses the first-person perspective to reveal the ways Naomi’s conflict with Nicholas has contributed to the loss of her sense of self, highlighting the novel’s thematic interest in The Importance of Living Authentically. The pressure from Nicholas’s family to be the perfect couple leads Naomi to restructure her identity in an attempt to appeal to a socially prescribed ideal, transforming into a version of herself she doesn’t recognize. As Naomi asserts, Nicholas’s mother Deborah “[has] invested in [her], grooming [her] into Mrs. Rose material” (48). For his part, Nicholas feels a similar pressure to live up to his mother’s expectations and feels the stress of trying to embody the person she wants him to be—a person he feels is directly at odds with his true self, the version that Naomi loves. 


The contrast between Nicholas’s relationship with Naomi and his relationship with his mother emphasizes the novel’s third major theme: The Power of Choice Versus Obligation. Nicholas feels obligated to do things for his mother because she paid for his education, allowing him to become a dentist. However, Hogle positions Deborah’s support as conditional, only bestowed when she approves of Nicholas’s actions and choices or when he defers to her advice. Deborah doesn’t approve of Naomi, because she doesn’t have a college degree or a high-paying job, and she actively attempts to exert her own will on their relationship, positioning Deborah as the novel’s antagonist and the primary external threat to their happy ending. Only by breaking free of his sense of obligation does Nicholas feel empowered to choose what he wants for himself, completing his character arc.

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