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The American foster care system is designed to provide temporary living arrangements for children and adolescents who cannot remain safely with their biological families due to abuse, neglect, or other family crises. As of 2020, there are over 400,000 American youth living in the foster care system (“Foster Care.” The Policy Circle). While the system aims to protect vulnerable youth, it faces significant challenges, particularly in supporting teens as they transition to adulthood. The novel’s depiction of the American foster care system through the journeys of Elizabeth and Tonya reflects these challenges.
The majority of American youth in the foster care system live in non-resident foster homes with licensed adults. Like Elizabeth and Tonya, 9% of American foster care youth are raised in a group home, a residential facility that houses multiple children or teens under the care of paid staff (“Child Welfare and Foster Care Statistics.” The Annie E. Casey Foundation, 27 July 2024). These homes are often used when traditional foster family placements are unavailable or when a youth’s behavioral or emotional needs require daily support. While group homes can provide stability and supervision, they often lack the familial environment necessary for healthy emotional development. High staff turnover, limited personal attention, and a lack of healthy, long-term adult relationships can leave teens feeling isolated and unsupported. At the same time, the pressures of living with an unfamiliar mix of children and teens can lead to interpersonal conflict. The novel highlights that Elizabeth and Tonya faced significant challenges in their group home that led to real issues in their adult lives.
Teens in foster care may face a unique set of obstacles that make the transition to adulthood particularly difficult. Many youth in foster care have experienced traumatic events, but the system lacks the funding necessary to adequately address these issues. Bureaucratic hurdles, understaffed agencies, and a lack of coordination between foster care, education, and health systems further complicate efforts to deliver comprehensive care. Aging out of foster care at the age of 18 or 21 poses another significant challenge. Without permanent family connections or adequate preparation, many young adults are thrust out of foster care into independence with few resources. Compared to their peers outside of the system, foster youth experience higher rates of houselessness, unemployment, incarceration, mental illness, and addiction (Nuñez, Miguel, et. al. “Resilience Factors in Youth Transitioning out of Foster Care: A Systematic Review.” Psychological Trauma: Theory, Research, Practice, and Policy, vol. 14, 2021, pp. S72-S81). The novel emphasizes that Tonya’s attempts to build a stable life by stealing Elizabeth’s identity result from the lack of stability in her adolescence in foster care.
Love, Mom was originally self-published as an e-book by author Iliana Xander in 2004. Since going viral on social media, particularly TikTok, the novel has been selected for traditional publication by Penguin. Through this transition from self-publishing to traditional publication, Xander joins a growing list of genre-specific authors whose books overcame initial rejection to be celebrated by mainstream audiences, largely fueled by discussion and popularity on “BookTok” on TikTok.
Freida McFadden is perhaps the best-known thriller author to transition from self-publishing to traditional publication. Although she began self-publishing in 2013, she did not find commercial success until The Housemaid (2002), a mystery novel, went viral on TikTok. Virality on BookTok has led to the success of self-published authors across genres. Tor, an imprint of Pan Macmillan, acquired Olivie Blake’s The Atlas Six trilogy after the first book, The Atlas Six (2020), became “the runaway TikTok must-read fantasy novel of the year” (“Tok UK Acquires TikTok Fantasy Phenomenon The Atlas Six.” Pan Macmillan, 28 Sep. 2021). Similarly, fantasy romance author Jeneane O’Riley self-published How Does It Feel? (2023). Following viral reactions to the book on TikTok, sales shot up, making the book a number-one title on Amazon. O’Riley then signed a deal with Bloom Books. Other authors who began self-publishing before finding viral success on TikTok and signing deals with publishers include Lucy Score, Hannah Grace, and Jasmine Mas. Shannon DeVito, director of books at Barnes and Noble, notes that “[BookTok] dragged a lot of published into the 21st century. It’s pushed them to be more flexible and pay attention to what readers are looking for” (Alter, Alexandra. “Publishers and Authors Wonder: Can Anything Replace BookTok?” The New York Times, 17 Jan. 2025).
Ironically, a central character of Love, Mom is a thriller author whose works are traditionally published and celebrated by the literary world. The fact that E. V. Renge is considered an inhuman “golden goose” by her publishers suggests that Xander may hold a low view of the traditional publishing industry. Despite this, Xander’s book has reached new audiences due to its acquisition and subsequent publication by Penguin.



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