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Tiffany CrumA modern alternative to SparkNotes and CliffsNotes, SuperSummary offers high-quality Study Guides with detailed chapter summaries and analysis of major themes, characters, and more.
Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of mental illness, physical and emotional abuse, and death.
In the novel, the relationship dynamics between Joy, Benny, and Xander are a stark example of how control can be disguised as love. There is a clear contrast between Xander’s possessive and domineering behavior and Benny’s supportive approach; the novel argues that genuine love must be founded in mutual respect and autonomy rather than abuse.
Xander consistently positions his actions as care and manipulates Joy into believing he loves her, but his behavior indicates a need for power over Joy. He isolates her by moving her away from the city, watches her through surveillance and by using his sister Mallory as a spy, and manipulates Joy emotionally by convincing her that her narcolepsy makes her a “burden” (173). This makes Joy believe she is lucky to have him despite his many flaws. Xander even takes control of Joy’s body, as he secretly replaces her birth control with placebos, impregnates her nonconsensually, and violently assaults her. His abuse is followed by acts of infantilizing care, which create a cycle of intertwined harm and affection. Joy describes her resulting learned helplessness: “Like a dying star, I began to collapse into myself. And as he always had, Xander took care of me” (178). This dynamic strips Joy of agency and distorts her sense of self, making her increasingly dependent on Xander.
In contrast, Benny’s relationship with Joy is built on mutuality and understanding, as seen in their podcast format, where each challenges and supports the other. Benny does not attempt to control Joy’s decisions or isolate her; instead, he encourages her individuality and values her creative voice. Even when he confesses his love, he does not force her to reciprocate, showing respect for her autonomy. Although Benny is not without flaws, his affection for Joy never comes at the cost of her independence.
By juxtaposing these relationships, the novel emphasizes the difference between love that empowers and possession that controls. Xander’s behavior reduces Joy, while Benny’s approach allows her to be her full self. This contrast reinforces the idea that true love is based on giving one’s beloved the freedom to exist as one’s own person.
Joy’s journey demonstrates how trauma silences victims; reclaiming her voice is a crucial step toward healing. Crum explores the internal consequences of trauma, which affects both self-perception and feelings toward the outside world.
Joy’s prolonged trauma affects her ability to communicate. While narcolepsy blurs Joy’s ability to distinguish sleep and reality, the strain of abuse intensifies this disorientation. Joy experiences memory lapses and hallucinates, for example, her interactions with Mitali. Joy’s physical and emotional exhaustion further limit her ability to advocate for herself, both with Xander and afterward. The experience and aftermath of Xander’s abuse influences every aspect of Joy’s functioning.
Silence is a symptom of Joy’s pain and a survival mechanism. She initially hides the abuse to maintain stability in her life and career, both of which Xander has infiltrated and almost fully controls. Even when she recognizes the danger she is in, she struggles to openly communicate what is happening to her even to her best friend. This inability to speak out is a direct result of internalized feelings of worthlessness, which have conditioned her to remain quiet and compliant.
The novel shows that reclaiming one’s voice is possible via a gradual and indirect process. Joy begins by sharing her truth within her memoir and podcast recordings, using them as a safe way to communicate what she cannot say outright to another person. These recordings allow her to reach Benny and eventually contribute to her rescue. Over time, as she gains distance from her trauma, Joy becomes more capable of expressing her feelings and experiences. By the end of the novel, she even shares her story publicly, turning her former silence into a platform for connecting with others in her situation. Speaking out becomes an act of resistance against those who once silenced her, and a necessary step in rebuilding her identity and sense of self.
In the story, Crum explores how perception and memory are shaped by emotions, psychology, and outside influences, leading to the conclusion that reported truth is often colored by bias and wishful thinking. The use of dual narrative perspectives, two fragmented timeframes, and revelations coming only from partial recollections, emphasizes how easily individuals can misinterpret events and invent inaccurate versions of reality.
Benny’s present-day narration is heavily influenced by stress and emotional involvement, which makes his perception of events increasingly unreliable. When Joy—the love of his life—disappears, he becomes focused on interpreting clues through the lens of their past relationship, which sometimes leads to him assuming meaning where there is none. His judgment is also clouded by feelings of responsibility and guilt over not protecting Joy, which leads him to suspect people around him without clear evidence. At one point, he acknowledges his flawed cognitive state, admitting, “Time is an abstract concept I can no longer grasp” (135). His recall becomes selective; for example, what he remembers of his final conversation with Joy is based on assumption rather than certainty.
Joy’s memoir and present-day narration demonstrate how trauma affects memory and perception. Her experiences of abuse and her lifelong narcolepsy contribute to her fragmented experience of reality and moments of confusion. She is uncertain what happened the night of Xander’s death, questioning the gaps in her memories, admitting to misremembering key events like the fight with Xander, and not fully grasping that her interactions with Mitali are hallucinatory. Crum underscores Joy’s unreliability as a narrator by writing the memoir sections in shifting styles, as Joy alternates between diary-like reflection and direct address to podcast listeners and fans.
The novel reinforces this theme by withholding key information and thus shaping the reading experience. Alternating memoir excerpts and present-day chapters create gaps in reader knowledge; misleading clues prompt incorrect guesswork about the identity of Joy’s stalker (which Benny, and the reader, assumes is Ted and Emil) or the circumstances of Xander’s death. Near the story’s conclusion, these broken narratives are realigned to expose the difference between assumption and what actually occurred. The novel thus suggests that memory is at best a changing and often unreliable reconstruction of the past.



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