This Is How You Lose Her

Junot Díaz

This Is How You Lose Her

Junot Díaz
36 pages1-hour read
Fiction
Short Story Collection
Adult
Published in 2010

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Character List

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Major Characters

Yunior is a Dominican immigrant who grows up in New Jersey before eventually building an academic career in Boston. He is charismatic and intellectually curious, possessing a deep love for literature and comic books. He struggles with fidelity and his treatment of women, behaviors heavily influenced by the hypermasculine culture modeled by his father and brother.

Key Relationships

Mother of Mami

Brother of Rafa

Son of Papi

Romantic Partner of Magda

Romantic Partner of Alma

Romantic Partner of Flaca

Romantic Interest of Miss Lora

Friend of Nilda

Friend of Elvis

Rafa is Yunior's older brother, a tough athlete and neighborhood womanizer who embodies Dominican machismo. He refuses to help with domestic chores, expecting his mother to clean and cook for him. Stubborn and rebellious, he faces a severe cancer diagnosis that severely tests his intense, aggressive personality.

Key Relationships

Brother of Yunior

Son of Mami

Son of Papi

Romantic Interest of Nilda

Romantic Partner of Pura

Yasmin is a hardworking Dominican immigrant who manages a team of laundry workers. Pragmatic and observant, she handles the practical challenges of building a life in the United States. She quietly monitors the letters her partner receives from his homeland, choosing to tolerate his divided loyalties to build a future together.

Key Relationships

Romantic Partner of Ramon

Friend of Ana Iris

Supporting Characters

Mami is Yunior and Rafa's mother, a reserved Dominican woman who manages the family's domestic life entirely on her own. She quietly tolerates her husband's infidelity while cooking elaborate meals and cleaning for her ungrateful sons. She turns to intense religious devotion when her family faces medical crises.

Key Relationships

Mother of Yunior

Mother of Rafa

Wife of Papi

Adversary of Pura

Papi is Yunior and Rafa's authoritative father who brings his family to the United States. He is strict and deeply critical of his family, holding unapologetic views about his own infidelities. He forces the boys to stay inside all winter to learn English and enforces his rules through physical punishment.

Key Relationships

Husband of Mami

Father of Yunior

Father of Rafa

Nilda is a teenager lacking a stable home environment, often seeking refuge at Yunior's apartment to avoid her alcoholic mother. She bonds with Yunior over comic books while pursuing a romance with his older brother. She frequently relies on the attention and resources of men to escape her poverty-stricken family life.

Key Relationships

Romantic Interest of Rafa

Friend of Yunior

Miss Lora is a single, middle-aged Dominican neighbor and former competitive gymnast with a rebellious history. Having lived abroad and worked as a teacher, she is highly educated and extremely comfortable in her own skin. She treats the teenage Yunior with a tenderness he rarely experiences, leading to a complex and legally questionable dynamic.

Key Relationships

Romantic Interest of Yunior

Rival of Paloma

Alma is a sexually adventurous, artistic Dominican-American college student. She loves independent music and takes pride in actively reclaiming her Dominican heritage. She expects honesty from her partners and reacts explosively when those expectations are violated.

Key Relationships

Romantic Partner of Yunior

Suspicious of Laxmi

Magda is a mixed-race Dominican American whom Yunior categorizes as a pure, "good girl." She is close to her father, deeply religious, and works as a teacher. When her relationship hits a crisis point, she agrees to travel to Santo Domingo to see if their bond can be repaired.

Key Relationships

Romantic Partner of Yunior

Distressed by Cassandra

Flaca, whose given name is Veronica, is a bookish young woman from outside Paterson, New Jersey. She works as a teacher and holds an additional job at a publishing press to support herself. She is deeply generous with her time, frequently offering Yunior rides and inviting him over whenever he calls.

Key Relationships

Romantic Partner of Yunior

Employee of Transactions Press

Ramon is a chubby Dominican man who works hard to establish a permanent life in America. He maintains a complex double life, attempting to purchase a home and build a future with Yasmin while remaining tied to the wife and son he left behind in his home country.

Key Relationships

Romantic Partner of Yasmin

Husband of Ramon's Wife

Pura is a recently immigrated Dominican girl who becomes involved with Rafa during his illness. She quickly elopes with him, causing immense friction within his household. She primarily seeks financial stability and proves unreliable when Rafa's health rapidly declines.

Key Relationships

Romantic Partner of Rafa

Adversary of Mami