We Are All Completely Beside Ourselves

Karen Joy Fowler

66 pages 2-hour read

Karen Joy Fowler

We Are All Completely Beside Ourselves

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2013

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Character List

Meet the key characters, with insights into their roles, motivations, and relationships—spoiler-free.

Major Characters

A 22-year-old college student attending UC Davis in 1996. Raised in an unusual family dynamic where her father continuously studied her behavior, she struggles with socialization and often feels out of place among her peers. She tries to maintain a low profile and harbors deep anxieties about her missing siblings, using silence as a defense mechanism to avoid processing her grief.

Key Relationships

Daughter of Vince Cooke

Daughter of Rosemary's Mother

Younger Sister of Lowell Cooke

Twin Sister of Fern

Friend of Harlow Fielding

Roommate of Todd

Tenant of Ezra Metzger

Acquaintance of Reg

Rosemary's twin sister who was sent away when they were five years old. She and Rosemary were inseparable during their early childhood, sharing a deeply interconnected bond and participating together in their father's behavioral studies. Her sudden disappearance permanently fractured the family and left her siblings with profound psychological scars.

Key Relationships

Twin Sister of Rosemary Cooke

Younger Sister of Lowell Cooke

Daughter of Vince Cooke

Daughter of Rosemary's Mother

Granddaughter of Grandma Donna

Ward of Matt

Rosemary's father and a committed, highly analytical psychologist. His career and rigorous behavioral studies dictate the family's unusual lifestyle. He prefers to view human behavior through a strictly scientific lens, which often leaves his children feeling as though they must earn his affection through performance.

Key Relationships

Father of Rosemary Cooke

Father of Lowell Cooke

Father and Researcher of Fern

Son-in-law of Grandma Donna

Employer of Matt

A deeply loving but emotionally fragile woman who serves as the peacemaker in the Cooke household. While her husband conducts the scientific aspects of raising their children, she handles the day-to-day mothering and physical care. The sudden loss of her children pushes her into severe depressive episodes, leaving her withdrawn.

Key Relationships

Mother of Rosemary Cooke

Mother of Lowell Cooke

Mother of Fern

Wife of Vince Cooke

Daughter of Grandma Donna

Aunt of Peter

Rosemary's fiercely stubborn older brother. As a child, he openly questions his father's scientific methods and exhibits deep loyalty to his sister Fern. His inability to accept Fern's sudden removal from their home drives a wedge between him and his parents, leading him to run away and live off the grid as a radical activist.

Key Relationships

Older Brother of Rosemary Cooke

Older Brother of Fern

Son of Vince Cooke

Ex-Girlfriend of Kitch Chalmers

Childhood Friend of Marcos

Supporting Characters

A charismatic and chaotic drama major who abruptly enters Rosemary's life. She enjoys pushing social boundaries, breaking rules, and manipulating situations to her advantage. Her uninhibited nature contrasts sharply with Rosemary's repressed personality, making her an exciting but unpredictable influence.

Key Relationships

Friend of Rosemary Cooke

Girlfriend of Reg

Target of Affection from Ezra Metzger

Harlow's on-again, off-again boyfriend. He projects a confident, somewhat arrogant demeanor but frequently finds himself at the mercy of Harlow's chaotic whims. He is often loud and dismissive of others, particularly when discussing literature or social issues.

Key Relationships

Boyfriend of Harlow Fielding

Acquaintance of Rosemary Cooke

The elusive and conspiracy-minded manager of Rosemary's apartment complex. He fancies himself a protector and becomes quickly infatuated with Harlow. He harbors strange beliefs about his tenants and desires to be part of something more exciting than his day job.

Key Relationships

Landlord of Rosemary Cooke

Admirer of Harlow Fielding

Landlord of Todd

Rosemary's college roommate. He is generally supportive but easily frustrated by the chaotic elements Rosemary brings into their shared living space, particularly when strangers occupy their home.

Key Relationships

Roommate of Rosemary Cooke

Tenant of Ezra Metzger

Rosemary's maternal grandmother. She strongly disapproves of Vince's profession and his unusual child-rearing experiments. She frequently steps in to help care for Rosemary when her daughter experiences depressive episodes.

Key Relationships

Mother-in-law of Vince Cooke

Grandmother of Rosemary Cooke

Grandmother of Fern

Lowell's high school girlfriend. She had a tumultuous relationship with him before his sudden disappearance and holds residual frustration regarding his abrupt departure from her life.

Key Relationships

Ex-Girlfriend of Lowell Cooke

Acquaintance of Rosemary Cooke

A college professor who teaches a course on religion and violence. His lectures on social behavior and gender dynamics deeply unsettle Rosemary, who finds his interpretations heavily skewed by his own biases.

Key Relationships

Professor of Rosemary Cooke

One of Vince's graduate students who assists with the family's home-based research. He acts as an observer during the children's early years and is tasked with ensuring Fern's physical safety during her relocation.

Key Relationships

Graduate Student Assistant of Vince Cooke

Caretaker of Fern

A campus police officer who takes a strict approach to student disturbances. He arrests the girls after a cafeteria brawl but drops the charges against Rosemary after speaking with her father.

Key Relationships

Arresting Officer of Rosemary Cooke

Arresting Officer of Harlow Fielding