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Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of pregnancy loss and termination, illness, death, and death by suicide.
It is the Fourth of July, and Polly and Mark are visiting his family at their home on Long Island Sound. Mark has a large family that is very close to one another. Polly sits with her sister-in-law, Emily, a psychologist, on the porch as they watch Emily’s children play near the water. Emily knows of Polly’s infertility and asks, “How’s your pursuit of parenthood going?” (56). Polly asks in return if, in Emily’s professional opinion, her body has decided that she wouldn’t make a good parent. Emily says that such thinking goes against biology. She asserts that her work has taught her that not all families get along like hers and that it’s more complicated than most assume. Polly’s niece, Sophia, tenderly sits in her lap while Emily leaves to check on her baby, David.
It’s book club meeting night, so Mark leaves. Polly recalls visiting her father after she met with Talia. She took him her uneaten pie, and her mother was there. She asked her mother if they had any relatives in Vermont, but her mother said no. Polly thinks about her unique relationship with her mother. They aren’t close, something that’s always bothered her, but Garrison thinks that she places too much weight on it.
Polly visits Jeannine, the psychologist at her fertility clinic, as she regularly does. Most visits to the clinic are stressful, but Polly enjoys her time with Jeannine because she can talk about anything. Polly has even shared her deepest secret with Jeannine: that after she discovered that Benedict was having an affair, she found out that she was pregnant and terminated the pregnancy. She worries that this is the reason she can’t get pregnant, but Jeannine assures her that it has no bearing on her current issue.
Polly is at the point where it’s time to consider the “next phase” in her treatment, which includes egg donors, surrogacy, or adoption—all things she’s not ready to discuss because she feels these options remove her from the process of becoming a mother. She tells Jeannine about the DNA test, but, like Mark, Jeannine isn’t a fan of these tests or their unintended consequences. Polly rarely speaks to other women in the clinic waiting room. She recalls meeting one woman and telling her about her book club and its rule: No one reads the book. They simply show up to talk and support one another. She hasn’t seen the woman in a while and asks Jeannine about her and whether she’s gotten pregnant, knowing that Jeannine can’t divulge personal information.
It is fall and the beginning of a new school term. As Polly prepares for her classes and meets her new students, she thinks of Talia, who is also beginning a new school year. Polly finds it increasingly challenging to keep up with her students as she ages, and she must “play intellectual chess day one” to stay ahead (82). She receives a message to call her mother about something urgent. She reaches her mother’s secretary, worried that it’s about her father. She calls Garrison, who is already on his way to the hospital: Jack fell and may have broken his hip. Polly is upset, but Garrison asks her to “trust him” to manage the situation until she can get there after school.
Jack isn’t seriously injured from the fall but now has weekly appointments with a physical therapist. Polly has remained in touch with Talia, who sends the sketches of her clothing designs. Talia’s father, Stephen Burton, reaches out to Polly via email and asks to meet her in person.
Polly meets Stephen at the hotel where he is staying for a conference. He apologizes to her in case Talia’s reaching out made her uncomfortable, but Polly assures him that she likes getting to know her. Talia’s mother, Marguerite, was adopted from Ghana by a family in Nebraska. She had a lifelong goal of finding out about her ancestry. Marguerite experienced a lot of pain in her life, including lost pregnancies, and died by suicide after Christmas. It has been very hard for Talia. As Stephen shares, Polly notices that he has blue eyes like hers. She has always wondered why she was the only one in her family with blue eyes. Stephen also has the same pointed ears she was teased for as a child. When Polly begins to ask about Stephen’s mother, he assures her that the genetic test won’t reveal that she’s his mother’s “love child.” He encourages Polly to check out his mother’s blog called “Warm A Toast” (91), and Polly knows the name.
Talia’s grandmother, Barbara Burton, runs an alpaca farm in the Catskills and produces expensive sweaters. Polly peruses Barbara’s website for photos showing her ears but finds none. During her meeting with Stephen, she asked about his father, but Stephen said he was a “rebounder” who was in and out of his life; he never truly knew him. Polly considers visiting Barbara’s farm, and Mark supports the idea, finding the similarities between Polly’s and Stephen’s ears “interesting.” Sarah offers to go with her to the farm, but like most people, she is still skeptical that the DNA test results are accurate and chalks Polly’s connection to Talia up to her protectiveness of teenage girls as a teacher.
Polly runs into Josephine, who is home from Harvard on break. When Josephine declares that college is “different” from her expectations, Polly offers a platitude, “You’ll do great!” (94), but makes a mental note to check in on Josephine via email.
Garrison, Polly, and Mark attend an event honoring Mary put on by the Women’s Bar Association. As Polly meets her mother’s associates and clerks and hears them sing her praises, she feels the familiar distance from her mother that she’s felt her entire life. While she knows Mary has accomplished much as a female judge, she often wishes that she were more like a mother to her. On the car ride home, she says, “Sometimes I feel like I don’t even know who she is” (106). Polly insists that if she becomes a mother, she will not treat her kid the way she treats her students, avoiding what she sees as her mother being the same hard-nosed judge in court that she is with her. Mark notes that Polly is a lot like her mother in ways she may not fully understand.
The theme of Identity as a Lifelong Negotiation becomes more central as Polly reevaluates her family relationships. Her conversation with Emily challenges Polly’s assumptions about what makes a “good” family. Emily’s point is that not all families are as close as hers, and she asserts that biology does not guarantee love and connection within family units. Polly’s own relationships reinforce this idea. While Mark’s family is large and close-knit, Polly feels a sense of distance in her relationship with her mother and is much closer to her in-laws. At the event honoring Mary, she realizes that she does not feel like she truly knows her mother as a person beyond her professional identity. She has always felt closest to her father, which makes his gradual loss to dementia especially painful. As he begins to forget who she is, her most secure family relationship becomes unstable. While Polly has always depended on her father for love and identity, his decline forces her to accept that she can’t rely on family for strength.
Simultaneously, Polly’s growing relationship with Talia both reinforces and complicates the significance of chosen relationships. Even though they may not be biologically related as Talia hoped, Polly continues to stay in touch with her. She takes an interest in her life, revealing how connections can form outside of confirmed family ties. However, the discovery of shared physical features between Polly and Stephen reintroduces the possibility of a biological connection underpinning Polly and Talia’s growing closeness. Certainly, this is what Polly hopes to find. Polly’s attention to details like their blue eyes and ears shows how quickly she begins to look for physical proof of belonging, especially when those distinctive physical features have always left her feeling like an outsider. Polly’s description of her anxiety—“that’s just me, still afraid of storms, and of capsizing” (82)—reveals the fragility of her identity at this point in the novel, in that it wouldn’t take much to topple her sense of self.
The theme of The Many Faces of Motherhood continues to weigh on Polly’s thoughts and decisions. Her conversation with Emily exposes how deeply she has internalized her infertility as a failure, to the point where she wonders if her body has “decided” that she would not be a good parent. Moreover, grueling fertility treatments have left her feeling alienated from her body, as evidenced by her remark, “After a while the process takes over, becomes estranged from what I suppose you’d call the product” (69). Polly’s experiences reveal the intense physical and psychological struggle of infertility. Her session with Jeannine further emphasizes this, especially when Polly reveals her past abortion and worries that it has caused her current infertility. Even though Jeannine reassures her that it has no effect, Polly still feels guilty and responsible, underscoring her belief that her infertility is her fault.
Polly’s resistance to options like surrogacy, egg donors, or adoption also reflects how strongly she connects motherhood to her own body. She feels that these options remove her from the experience and that her identity as a potential mother is tied to biological participation. This pressure is reinforced in experiences like holding her niece Sophia or seeing babies in public, interactions that remind her of what she lacks.
Relationships as Sources of Support continue to play an important role through Polly’s book club friends. Sarah remains a steady presence, offering to go with Polly to the farm and listening to her concerns. Even when she is skeptical about the DNA test, her willingness to support Polly shows the strength of their friendship. In a clinical capacity, Jeannine also gives Polly a space to speak openly without judgment. Mark is the epitome of a supportive partner, as he is sensitive to every aspect of Polly’s complicated journey and does not pressure her to decide on the next steps. His patience and understanding mirror the support that Polly receives from her friends, and these steady relationships help her process uncertainty about her body and identity.
Polly’s biological relationships are a less predictable source of support. Garrison’s stabilizing role is evident in his request that Polly “trust him,” which allows Polly to rely on someone else during a stressful moment. In contrast, Polly feels a lack of warmth and connection with her mother, which affects her ideas about the kind of mother she wants to be. However, when Mark notes that “there’s more of your mother in you than you like to admit” (100), he challenges Polly’s belief that she is separate from her mother. Even though she feels emotionally distant from her, her biological family complicates Polly’s desire to define herself independently.



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