A Complicated Kindness

Miriam Toews

41 pages 1-hour read

Miriam Toews

A Complicated Kindness

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2004

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Character List

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Major Characters

Nomi is a 16-year-old girl living in the conservative Mennonite town of East Village, Manitoba. She drifts through her final days of high school anticipating a bleak future at the local chicken processing plant, though she secretly dreams of moving to New York City to hang out with Lou Reed. Following the fracturing of her family, she copes by wandering the town, skipping school, and adopting a wry, sarcastic attitude toward the religious community around her.

Key Relationships

Daughter of Ray Nickel

Daughter of Trudie Nickel

Younger Sister of Tash Nickel

Niece of Hans "The Mouth" Rosenfeldt

Girlfriend of Travis

Best Friend of Lydia

Student of Mr. Quiring

Ray is Nomi's devout, quiet father who works as a school teacher. Following the departure of his wife and eldest daughter, he retreats further into the Mennonite faith. He processes his grief in unusual ways, such as driving aimlessly at night, selling off the family's furniture piece by piece, and carefully organizing trash at the local dump.

Key Relationships

Father of Nomi Nickel

Husband of Trudie Nickel

Father of Tash Nickel

Brother-in-law of Hans "The Mouth" Rosenfeldt

Trudie is Nomi's vivacious mother who disappeared suddenly when Nomi was 13, leaving her passport behind. She actively participated in the Mennonite faith but possessed a fierce, rebellious streak that caused friction with her brother, the church leader. She struggled to balance her love for her husband with the strict constraints placed upon women in East Village.

Key Relationships

Wife of Ray Nickel

Mother of Nomi Nickel

Mother of Tash Nickel

Sister of Hans "The Mouth" Rosenfeldt

Tash is Nomi's older sister who openly questioned the Mennonite religion during her teenage years. Rejecting the strict rules of East Village, she embraced atheism and refused to conform to the expectations of the church. She eventually left town with her boyfriend, setting a precedent that deeply affects Nomi's own coming of age.

Key Relationships

Older Sister of Nomi Nickel

Daughter of Trudie Nickel

Daughter of Ray Nickel

Girlfriend of Ian

Niece of Hans "The Mouth" Rosenfeldt

Hans is the pastor of the East Village Mennonite church and Trudie's brother. He acts as a rigid, imposing figure who demands absolute obedience from his congregation, especially the women. Despite his stern exterior, he harbors deep personal sadness and uses his authority to punish those who challenge him.

Key Relationships

Brother of Trudie Nickel

Uncle of Nomi Nickel

Brother-in-law of Ray Nickel

Uncle of Tash Nickel

Supporting Characters

Travis is Nomi's boyfriend of five months who works for his father and occasionally at the historic tourist village. He presents himself as a rebellious teenager by smoking marijuana and listening to rock music. Despite his modern posturing, he maintains highly traditional expectations regarding gender roles and dismisses Nomi's emotional needs.

Key Relationships

Boyfriend of Nomi Nickel

Coworker of Adeline Ratzlaff

Customer of The Golden Comb

Mr. Quiring is Nomi's high school English teacher. He heavily criticizes Nomi's writing assignments and frequently penalizes her for her lack of conformity. He holds a significant grudge against the Nickel family and monitors them closely on behalf of the community.

Key Relationships

Teacher of Nomi Nickel

Acquaintance of Trudie Nickel

Often called Lids, Lydia is Nomi's longtime friend who suffers from a mysterious physical illness that her nurses frequently doubt. She remains a devout Mennonite but relies on Nomi to bring her stories from the outside world.

Key Relationships

Best Friend of Nomi Nickel

The Golden Comb is a local marijuana dealer who operates out of a trailer near East Village. He lives independently of the strict Mennonite rules, providing a space where the town's teenagers escape their religious obligations.

Key Relationships

Drug Dealer for Nomi Nickel

Drug Dealer for Travis

Associate of Eldon

Ian is a local boy who rejected the Mennonite church's teachings. He dated Tash Nickel and supported her rebellious actions, eventually leaving town with her to escape the community's judgment.

Key Relationships

Boyfriend of Tash Nickel

Adeline is a local teenager who works at the recreated historical village. She plays the role of a traditional Mennonite wife alongside Travis during their shifts, adhering closely to the expected behaviors of the town.

Key Relationships

Coworker of Travis

Acquaintance of Nomi Nickel

Sheridan is Nomi's former neighbor. He experienced severe family trauma after his father was excommunicated and left town, followed by his mother taking her own life.

Key Relationships

Former Neighbor of Nomi Nickel

Grandson of Mrs. Klippenstein

Sheridan's grandmother, who lives on a property next to a small shack where her excommunicated husband resides. She represents the ongoing domestic suffering caused by the church's harsh penalties.

Key Relationships

Grandmother of Sheridan Klippenstein

Patient of Trudie Nickel

An older woman in East Village who treats Nomi with special kindness. She lost her four-year-old son, Clayton, to drowning and projects her maternal feelings onto Nomi, who is exactly the age Clayton would have been.

Key Relationships

Acquaintance of Nomi Nickel

Mother of Clayton

Mrs. Peters' son who drowned at four years old. His memory causes his mother to maintain a lingering attachment to Nomi, viewing her as a reflection of who he could have become.

Key Relationships

Son of Mrs. Peters

A local drug dealer who operates alongside The Golden Comb, supplying marijuana to the teenagers of East Village and participating in the local illicit economy.

Key Relationships

Associate of The Golden Comb

An acquaintance of Nomi's who was raised by his grandmother after his parents were excommunicated for alcoholism. He relies heavily on smoking and drinking to cope with his isolation.

Key Relationships

Boyfriend of Brass Knuckle Girl

Acquaintance of Nomi Nickel

A French girl dating Bert. Nomi views their relationship with dark romanticism, believing rumors that the two share a suicide pact to escape their difficult lives.

Key Relationships

Girlfriend of Bert

Nomi's cousin, who has a mild mental disability. Nomi treats him with kindness and shares cigarettes with him to offer him a moment of normalcy.

Key Relationships

Cousin of Nomi Nickel

A returned missionary from Paraguay who lives in East Village. Nomi comforts him after he is struck during a local dispute over the construction of an abattoir.

Key Relationships

Acquaintance of Nomi Nickel

A friend of Nomi's from school. She points out a humorous photograph of Nomi on display at the local museum village, highlighting Nomi's awkwardness in traditional settings.

Key Relationships

Friend of Nomi Nickel

One of Nomi's friends. She invites Nomi over for Bundt cake and vodka while babysitting, only to abruptly dismiss her when the homeowners are expected back.

Key Relationships

Friend of Nomi Nickel

Coworker of Patty

A friend of Nomi's who participates in drinking vodka while babysitting. She silently returns to the house after Nomi is asked to leave, demonstrating the fickle nature of teenage friendships.

Key Relationships

Coworker of Marina

Friend of Nomi Nickel

An adjudicator from the city who visits East Village to judge a choral performance. She previously worked as an actress and singer at a local playhouse where she knew Trudie.

Key Relationships

Guest of Ray Nickel

Former Colleague of Trudie Nickel

A local acquaintance of Nomi's who expresses clear confusion when Nomi is still wandering around town despite her dramatic farewells earlier in the week.

Key Relationships

Acquaintance of Nomi Nickel