The Promise of Happiness

47 pages1-hour read

Nonfiction

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Adult

Published in 2010

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Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of racism, gender discrimination, and antigay bias.

Unhappiness as Political Resistance

In The Promise of Happiness, Ahmed dismantles the cultural consensus that happiness is an unconditional good, arguing instead that unhappiness can acquire political significance when it reveals the costs of socially prescribed happiness. The book suggests that apparent social harmony is often maintained by covering over conflict, inequality, and suffering that underpin dominant norms. In this context, the feminist killjoy, the unhappy queer, and the melancholic migrant are figures associated with unhappiness because they do not follow socially approved paths to happiness. By expressing or remaining attached to feelings that dominant happiness narratives seek to overcome, they draw attention to violence and exclusion concealed by the “happiness duty”—the expectation that people should be happy and contribute to the happiness of others. Through these figures, Ahmed demonstrates how unhappiness can unsettle established social norms and make other ways of living imaginable.

The figure of the “feminist killjoy” is central to this argument. She is the person who disrupts the mood of a social gathering by pointing out sexism or another expression of unequal power. As Ahmed describes, this act of speaking out against injustice leads to her being perceived as the source of the bad feeling. The discomfort that surfaces after she speaks reveals that the group’s prior “happiness” depended on her silence. When she speaks, she disrupts the group’s happiness by drawing attention to the unhappiness and conflict that the appearance of harmony had concealed. Ahmed’s account of the feminist killjoy therefore illustrates how a refusal to simply “get along” can reveal what must remain unspoken for social harmony to be maintained.

Similarly, Ahmed analyzes “unhappy queers” as figures of resistance against the compulsory nature of heterosexual happiness. Drawing on queer literature like Radclyffe Hall’s The Well of Loneliness, she explores how narratives of queer misery can reveal the conditions that produce queer unhappiness without presenting heterosexuality as its solution. In Hall’s novel, the protagonist Stephen Gordon’s suffering culminates in a revolutionary vision in which her personal pain merges with that of a “miserable army” of others, whom the novel describes using the historical term “inverts.” As their suffering becomes collective, Stephen imagines the walls containing their misery falling around them. Ahmed interprets this image as revolutionary, connecting queer unhappiness to a demand for justice and social change. The misery of the ending therefore reveals the injustice of a social world in which heterosexual happiness depends upon queer exclusion.

Ahmed extends this analysis to the “melancholic migrant,” a figure who is perceived as failing to embrace the promise of multicultural happiness and to “get over” experiences of racism. Within this national narrative, the migrant’s continued attention to racism is interpreted as a stubborn attachment to past injury. Ahmed questions this demand to move on by showing how it can treat racism as something that has already been overcome. The melancholic migrant instead draws attention to histories of colonialism and racism whose effects continue to shape the present, disrupting the idea that such injustices can simply be left behind. Ahmed thus challenges a model of national happiness that depends on treating racial injury as resolved. Ultimately, Ahmed develops the idea of the “freedom to be unhappy” (195): the freedom to be affected by unhappiness and to live in ways that depart from socially prescribed paths to happiness.

The Exclusionary Nature of the Good Life

Ahmed’s The Promise of Happiness mounts a sustained critique of the cultural ideal of “the good life” (6), arguing that although it is presented as a universal aspiration, it privileges socially approved ways of living. The book demonstrates that happiness is promised as a reward for conforming to particular life paths, such as heterosexual marriage, domesticity, and forms of national belonging. This promise works to direct individuals toward certain paths while stigmatizing those who deviate. By tracing who gains access to these socially approved forms of happiness and who is excluded from them, Ahmed reveals how dominant ideals of the good life can reproduce social hierarchies, with the happiness of some depending on the labor, exclusion, or suffering of others.

Ahmed examines classical philosophical accounts of the good life, particularly Aristotle’s account of happiness. She points to Aristotle’s model of the happiest life as one of “contemplative speculation,” an ideal available only to those with the leisure to pursue it. Ahmed emphasizes that this leisure depends on other people performing the necessary labor, meaning that one person’s capacity to pursue the contemplative life can rest on another person’s work. This inequality is therefore built into the conditions that make this version of the good life possible: The leisure that allows some to pursue a socially valued form of happiness relies on labor that remains in the background. Ahmed traces this unequal distribution of labor and leisure through later models of happiness.

This exclusionary logic is illustrated through the figure of the “happy housewife.” Ahmed analyzes this mid-20th-century ideal as a fantasy that equated female happiness with domestic labor and family life. The image of the beaming housewife concealed women’s unhappiness with the domestic roles they were expected to find fulfilling, as documented by second-wave feminists like Betty Friedan in her book The Feminine Mystique. Furthermore, Ahmed highlights critiques from Black feminists like bell hooks, who pointed out that this ideal centered the experiences of white, middle-class women. Black women and working-class women could be excluded from this ideal while also performing the domestic labor that made that lifestyle possible for others. The happy housewife, therefore, illustrates how an ideal presented as universally desirable can obscure differences in women’s experiences of happiness and domestic labor.

Ultimately, the book suggests that collective happiness can depend on the suffering of others. Ahmed illustrates this argument through Ursula Le Guin’s short story, “The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas.” In the utopian city of Omelas, the collective happiness, intelligence, and compassion of all its citizens “depend wholly on this child’s abominable misery” (194), a single child kept in a state of perpetual suffering in a dark basement. For Ahmed, the story raises an ethical problem: The apparent flourishing of a community cannot be separated from the unequal conditions that make it possible. The suffering concentrated in one marginalized figure therefore challenges the assumption that collective happiness is necessarily evidence of a good society.

The False Promise of Positive Psychology

In The Promise of Happiness, Ahmed critiques the contemporary “happiness turn,” especially the rise of positive psychology and the wider happiness industry. She argues that these approaches increasingly treat happiness as an individual project, something people are expected to achieve by working on themselves. By locating the responsibility for happiness within the individual, these approaches can detach experiences of unhappiness from the social conditions in which they arise. Ahmed therefore questions what is obscured when happiness becomes primarily a matter of individual effort and self-improvement.

Ahmed identifies a thriving “happiness industry” that markets happiness as a technique and an individual project. She analyzes Michael Argyle’s work The Psychology of Happiness and draws on Nikolas Rose’s account of therapeutic culture in Governing the Soul, in which individuals are encouraged to focus on “governing their souls” to become happier (8). This approach promotes the idea that happiness is an outcome of personal effort and the right mindset, achieved through practices like “mood induction techniques” (8). Ahmed also discusses Martin Seligman’s positive psychology, which similarly emphasizes increasing happiness through work on the self. In this model, unhappiness becomes something to be overcome through individual effort. Becoming happier is therefore increasingly treated as the individual’s responsibility.

Furthermore, Ahmed questions the methodologies of the “new science of happiness” (4), particularly its heavy reliance on self-reporting. She points out that since happiness is culturally valued, being asked about one’s happiness is not a neutral inquiry. Self-reported happiness may reflect people’s desire to describe their lives positively or their proximity to socially valued ideas of happiness. Ahmed suggests that these measurements may therefore capture more than an individual’s feelings alone. Consequently, findings produced by happiness research can become prescriptive. When research associates happiness with socially valued life choices such as marriage, those choices can be reinforced as social goods, turning a correlation into a prescription for how people should live.

Ahmed also questions the assumption that positive feelings necessarily indicate that circumstances are good. She draws on Audre Lorde’s critique in The Cancer Journals of “looking on the bright side” (84), which Lorde identifies as a way of avoiding difficult realities that threaten existing power structures. For Ahmed, this critique demonstrates the problem with treating positivity as inherently desirable: Feeling good does not necessarily provide evidence that the circumstances producing those feelings are good. It therefore becomes important to question what happens when happiness itself is used as a measure of a good life. The promise of positive psychology becomes problematic when achieving happiness is treated as evidence that people are living in the right way.