The Things We Never Say

Elizabeth Strout

47 pages 1-hour read

Elizabeth Strout

The Things We Never Say

Fiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2026

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Chapters 3-4Chapter Summaries & Analyses

Content Warning: This section of the guide contains depictions of mental illness, bullying, death by suicide, and cursing.

Chapter 3 Summary

In his history class, Artie Dam moderates a discussion about the recent fight at the soccer game, which he soon discovers was triggered by an antisemitic remark targeting Jacob Aaronson, a Jewish student. Later, principal Hoover Lakeland tells Artie that the school board, responding to parents’ complaints, is now pressuring him to teach the “Confederate side” of the Civil War. Hoover admits that by making this request of Artie, he is engaging in “anticipatory obedience” to the country’s increasing political polarization. Despairing over the country’s political future, Hoover expresses his appreciation for Artie’s current teaching standards.


The narrative briefly flashes forward in time to reveal that two years later, Hoover will endure an FBI investigation due to his decision to harbor undocumented immigrants in his home—a decision that will lead to Hoover’s death by suicide amid death threats and a rumored betrayal by his mistress.


The narrative returns to the present. Overcome by the country’s ominous political trends toward authoritarianism, Artie delivers a pointed lecture to his students on fascism and the Holocaust. Rhonda Lazarre asks him if world peace is possible, and Artie reassures her that it is. Later, he feels ashamed, believing that his platitude was an outright lie.


Late one night, Artie is haunted by a premonition that Rob is somehow in trouble, so he drives to Rob’s apartment in Somerville. When he presses Rob, his anguished son shocks him by confessing, “You’re not my father” (88). Rob explains that Flossie’s husband, Reginald MacDonald, sent him a deathbed letter, claiming to be Rob’s biological father. Reginald also left the means for Rob to confirm his claim via DNA test, which Rob has done.


Artie reassures Rob that nothing has changed in their relationship; he still sees himself as Rob’s father. Rob is relieved. Just then, Rob’s estranged wife, Francesca, arrives home early from Paris; she and Rob are undergoing an amicable breakup, and now, she tells Artie that Rob’s discovery only deepened his love for Artie. Father and son agree not to tell Evie that they are aware of her past affair with Reginald. Artie invites Francesca to join him, Rob, and Evie for the upcoming Thanksgiving festivities. While driving home, Artie fully accepts the truth of Rob’s paternity when he realizes that Rob never physically resembled him. He also acknowledges that he and Evie have silently shared this lie for decades.

Chapter 4 Summary

Reeling from the revelation of Rob’s paternity, Artie engages in impulsive behavior that is extremely out of character. He spontaneously shoplifts a comb from a drugstore and later gets rid of the item out of shame. He ruminates on many years’ worth of memories involving Reginald and Rob, and he also reinterprets Evie’s past remarks about Reginald as long-concealed clues to her infidelity. He finds some comfort in his calls to Rob, where father and son discuss esoteric subjects such as Carl Jung’s philosophy on free will. Artie does confide the full story to his friend Ken Moynihan, who reacts with shock.


The unnamed authoritarian candidate that Artie and Hoover had feared (Donald Trump) wins the (2024) presidential election.


When Rob worries that he might be an “asshole” like his biological father, Artie reassures him by saying, “He wasn’t your father. I was” (112). Artie briefly resolves to confront Evie, but instead, they fall into a bitter argument when she admits that her affluent father never liked the lower-class Artie; Artie retaliates by calling her father “vulgar.”


Days later, Artie travels three towns away to Schwartz’s, an upscale men’s clothing store. After conversing pleasantly with the owner, Charles, he buys one shirt, and when the owner is distracted by other customers, he attempts to steal two other shirts. A security alarm stops him, and Charles takes him to a back room. Finding no criminal record attached to Artie’s name, Schwartz realizes that Artie is experiencing a deep personal crisis and kindly releases him without calling the police, saying that in his experience, sudden shoplifting behavior by otherwise honest citizens often indicates a great loss in the person’s life. Artie returns home shaken by his own behavior and sits in the dark until Evie arrives. He is astonished when she notices nothing amiss with him.


The chapter closes by observing that while Evie remains oblivious, colleagues and students—including Anne Merrill, Rhonda, and Danny Marino—are registering his changed demeanor or wrestling with hidden sorrows of their own.

Chapters 3-4 Analysis

When Principal Hoover Lakeland requests that Artie teach “the Confederate side” of the Civil War (72), his frustration over the necessity of this interference in his staff’s curriculum reflects his awareness of The Negative Effects of Political Polarization. The school board’s demand is a direct reflection of the American “culture wars” of the 2020s, and this scene makes it clear that local educational policies often become a battleground for conflicting national ideologies. Implicit in the conversation is the men’s mutual understanding that the request for greater Confederate representation is a symptom of the worsening racism in American culture. Hoover’s self-aware diagnosis of his compliance as “anticipatory obedience” reveals the erosion of institutional principles under political pressure, framing the school as a microcosm of a nation succumbing to authoritarian impulses.


Notably, Strout further reinforces the characters’ sense of impending doom by adding a parenthetical flash-forward to Hoover’s death by suicide two years later, following an FBI investigation into his conscientious defiance of the country’s increasingly cruel immigration policies. This use of prolepsis immediately elevates the stakes of this otherwise incidental conversation in Hoover’s office, intensifying their seemingly ideological discussion to a matter of literal life and death. By revealing the tragic outcome in advance, Strout imbues the narrative’s present-day political anxieties with a sense of fatalism, emphasizing that the social decay Artie and Hoover fear is an inevitability with destructive personal consequences.


In the midst of these broader pressures, the revelation of Rob’s true parentage fractures Artie’s internal reality, deepening the existing chasm between him and Evie. The moment Artie returns home and sees his wife’s face as both intimately familiar and that of a “stranger,” he understands that the secret of her infidelity has silently defined their entire life together. As Artie muses, “We have always sat in this room with this huge thing silently between us” (101). His realization highlights The Weight of Unspoken Truths, for his decision not to confront this unpleasant truth builds an even higher wall inside their marriage, preventing the two from ever experiencing a true meeting of the minds. Their subsequent vitriolic fight over Evie’s father is thus a displacement for the monumental, unspoken betrayal that lies between them. The scene implies that it is far safer to argue about social class and old parental judgments than it is to confront the reality of infidelity and lies.


Yet even as the secret dismantles Artie’s marriage, it paradoxically cements his bond with Rob, as the two embrace a definition of fatherhood grounded in love and commitment rather than genetics. Artie’s immediate, unwavering response to Rob’s fear of inheriting his biological father’s negative traits—“He wasn’t your father. I was” (112)—allows both men to reclaim their relationship on their own terms, thereby Redefining Fatherhood as a Social Commitment. Their connection is further fortified through their shared intellectual and emotional landscape. Their animated phone calls about Carl Jung, free will, and precognition reveal the alignment of their worldviews, prompting Rob to joyfully exclaim, “We are related!” (97). In a world defined by deception and political rot, their renewed family bond becomes a sanctuary of authenticity.


The narrative grounds Artie’s existential crisis in the philosophical and psychological theories of Carl Jung (including Jung’s own near-death experience) to emphasize the fact that Artie, like Jung, is undergoing a deep psychic transformation due to his brush with mortality. In this context, Artie’s repeated inquiries into the nature of free will mark his desperate attempts to make sense of a life that feels simultaneously fated and chaotic. The discovery of Evie’s long-held secret casts his entire past in a deterministic light, as if he were an unwitting character in a script written decades ago. At the same time, the national political situation and the victory of a candidate he despises both amplify his sense of powerlessness in the face of these seemingly inexorable social forces. By introducing these classic Jungian concepts, Strout provides a framework for exploring Artie’s internal state as a spiritual and philosophical quest for meaning in a world where agency itself is in doubt.


Despite Artie’s progress, his internal collapse manifests in aberrant social behavior, most notably his recently acquired habit of shoplifting. His impulse to steal increasingly expensive items on two separate occasions shows a complete break from his identity as a responsible, law-abiding teacher and citizen. However, these acts are not born of greed or immorality; instead, they signal Artie’s spiritual disorientation, suggesting that he is either lashing out at the world or making a subconscious plea to be seen and held accountable. The compassionate response of the store owner, Charles Schwartz, provides an important moment of external grace, for this complete stranger correctly perceives Artie’s actions as a sign of crisis and declines to punish him. Schwartz’s kindness contrasts sharply with Evie’s obliviousness, for her failure to notice anything amiss that night demonstrates the full extent of Artie’s isolation and spiritually barren marriage. Yet because colleagues like Anne Merrill and students like Rhonda and Danny do register his altered demeanor, Strout ultimately calls attention to the subtle fabric of community, suggesting that genuine empathy often emerges from the periphery.

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