Handler recounts the time she had a frustrating encounter with a man on the street. She drove back to her nail salon to collect something she’d forgotten. A man yelled at her for not feeding the meter. Because he seemed generally nice, she calmly told him she’d done so intentionally. The man got upset and called her sexist. Handler saw this as a teaching moment and explained why women were frustrated with micro-aggressions like this one.

Handler reflects on the incident. Some people think she’s “wasting [her] time with conversations like this” but she’s glad she confronted this man (234). She believes thoughtful interactions like this can make a change.

Handler recalls a conflict she had to resolve with her ex, Ted Harbert. One day, he texted her about exposing the intimate details of their relationship on television. She realized what she’d done and made an effort to correct what she’d said in her next interview. She admits she still makes mistakes because she’s still learning.

Handler describes her relationship with Mallorca, where she owns a house. She describes her experience buying the house and what the place has become in the years since. Every year, she spends a month there and invites different “groups of friends to come each week” (244). Some friends spend the week doing drugs, while others spend the week exercising. One year, Handler and her friends spent time kayaking. She took one friend out on a midnight ride and the friend opened up about her trauma. Handler took the other friends on solo kayak rides the following nights. The night sky and water helped them open up, too. Handler didn’t offer advice at night, but would share her thoughts the next morning. She remembers when she encouraged one friend to let go of her anger toward her mother. A few months later, the friend texted to say she made amends with her mom before she died because of Handler.

Handler considers Mallorca a safe place for herself and her loved ones. It means a lot of different things to each person who comes there. One year, she encountered an elderly couple celebrating their anniversary. Handler offered them LSD and lent them her kayak. The next morning, they thanked her profusely for helping them have fun.

Handler describes a family trip she took to Martha’s Vineyard. A friend joined them. She was a CEO and told the group about the reviews they were doing at work. Handler suggested they do similar reviews with their family. Handler’s siblings protested, referencing Handler’s email years prior. Handler muses on the email, revealing that it’s now in the public domain.

Handler recalls the time she gave an ex-boyfriend 35 linden trees when they broke up. She wanted him to think of her every time they changed colors and lost their leaves. She reflects on the meaning of the trees and reminds herself to always be a tree instead of a leaf.

Handler reflects on her relationships with her dogs. After Bert’s death, she began looking for a new companion for Bernice. She was in LA for a few days hosting the Critics’ Choice Awards. She moved back into her house although it was still under construction. While closed in her hot room with Bernice that first night back in LA, she reminded herself to stay calm and remain grateful. However, she missed having a second dog. She contacted her assistant and arranged a meeting with a dog shelter the next day. At the park, she got into an altercation with a rude man. She brushed off the interaction and found the dog shelter reps. They showed her a dog who she took home that night and named Doug. She describes Doug as her ultimate dog.

The next day, Handler was feeling positive. She felt proud of herself after hosting the awards. She even got Oprah’s approval. Between this success and Doug, Handler felt strong and indomitable. However, on the long ride back to Vancouver, she urinated in her pants. She sees this as a reminder that she’s still human.

Not long later, Handler invoked Ange’s help shooting her annual birthday video. The process was frustrating, as Ange made her ski down a hill holding both of her dogs in a bikini. Back at the house, she was too tired to eat anything other than a power bar. Ange cooked her dinner and sat with her until she realized Handler needed space. Handler is thankful for a sister like Ange.

Over the following weeks, Handler tirelessly trained Doug. In retrospect, she realizes she had the energy to invest in Doug because of the energy she’d invested in herself.

Handler tells more of her story with Whoopsie and Oopsie. When the girls were in high school, Handler invited them to spend their spring break with her in Whistler. The girls were getting along better and the three enjoyed themselves. Realizing the girls needed her, she pushed off a date to be with them. She also invested in the things they liked and tried teaching them new things, too. She includes her journal entries from this time.

Handler muses on whether or not she is a good person. She considers how she used to define goodness and how she sees herself now. Meditation has helped her improve her outlook. When she meditates, she imagines her late mother and late brother surrounding her in warm light. She wants to give off light, too.

Handler recalls that same spring she was in Whistler. That year, she’d won a large following of local children. Her friends’ kids loved spending time with her and she made an effort to invest in them, too. Sometimes her loved ones teased her for having so many children in her life when she didn’t have kids of her own. She sees these kids as a joke her mom was playing on her, but reiterates her particular love for Whoopsie and Oopsie. At winter’s end, she invited Whoopsie on a trip to D.C. Handler saw herself in Whoopsie and realized she needed guidance. In D.C. she took Whoopsie around the city and brought her on a college tour. She encouraged her to identify and follow her dreams.

Not long later, Bernice passed away. Handler spent time reflecting on their relationship. The love Bernice gave her reminded her of the love she’d found in so many other relationships, too.

Handler recounts another interaction she had with Jane Fonda. One year, Jane asked Handler to return to LA early to attend an event she was hosting, protesting Big Oil. Handler immediately agreed. Afterwards, Jane emailed Handler her appreciation and commended her personal growth.

Handler writes a letter to herself. She describes the woman she has become and lists everything she’s proud of in her life. She reminds herself how strong she is and how much she learns every day.