Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage

Belle Burden

42 pages 1-hour read

Belle Burden

Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage

Nonfiction | Biography | Adult | Published in 2026

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Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of emotional abuse and suicidal ideation.

Part 1 Summary

Belle Burden and her family have watched an osprey nest near their home on Martha’s Vineyard, Massachusetts, since buying the property in 2005. Burden’s now ex-husband, James, was particularly taken by the birds. He even worked with osprey experts in the area to better understand and protect them.


At the start of the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020, Burden and her family returned to the house to find that the “nest was intact” but empty (4). Burden and James hoped that they’d soon see the ospreys return.


Burden and her family quarantined on Martha’s Vineyard. They normally lived full-time in Manhattan, with the island property as a vacation home, but the city had recently shut down. Burden felt safe on the island with James and their two daughters, Evie and Carrie. She was unconcerned about letting their eldest child, Finn, stay with friends on Long Island, convinced that the restrictions would only last a few weeks. The family spent cozy days together, which made the unprecedented situation more bearable.


One day, Burden received a call from an unknown number; a man left a message saying that James was having an affair with his wife. A shocked Burden confronted James, who admitted the affair but insisted that it meant nothing to him and had just started a few weeks ago. He told Burden the woman’s name, how they met, and how many kids she had. In shock, Burden texted the husband, who confirmed the details but couldn’t talk because his wife had just attempted to die by suicide. Burden then found James on the phone, checking in with his lover.


Alone, Burden contacted her stepmother, Susan, and her best friends, Maria and Anna. No one could believe that James had cheated on her, but they were all sympathetic.


The next morning, James told Burden that he was leaving and wanted a divorce. He promised that she could have their house, their apartment, and full custody of the children, as he wanted none of it. He left without saying goodbye to his daughters. When they woke up, Burden told them that James had to return to the city for work.


For days, Burden struggled to process what had happened, continuing to hide the truth from her children. She texted and called James incessantly, but with little response. He accused her of having “lost [her] mind” (15), which she admits is how she felt. He wanted them to tell their families and friends that the divorce was a mutual decision. Throughout their 20-year marriage, Burden had taken his advice and let him guide their decisions. Now, she refused. Two months after he left, James’s family stopped talking to her.


Burden thought that her daughters still didn’t know what was going on, but one day, Evie texted her that she understood Burden was going through a lot and that she would do her best to help. Evie didn’t explain what she meant, but she did assume all the cooking duties; Evie did her best to get her mother to eat, as Burden was losing significant weight. Meanwhile, Burden contacted the family who was hosting Finn, told them what was going on, and requested that they protect him from the truth. Shortly thereafter, Burden told her mother, Amanda. Burden also told her brother and his wife, Carter and Charmaine. Everyone offered support.


As winter turned to spring, Burden looked out for the ospreys’ return. When they came back, her first thought was of James. Then, she realized that he wasn’t there to celebrate with.


Finally, Burden and James agreed to tell the kids about the divorce. Burden didn’t want James present for the conversation, worried about COVID and afraid to see him, but his boss insisted on lending James his private plane so that he could travel to the Vineyard.


Burden felt a familiar excitement at seeing James again but had to remind herself that he wasn’t her husband anymore. They FaceTimed Finn and told the children that they were planning to divorce because James was unhappy. Finn hung up, Carrie screamed in distress and fled, and Evie sat stone still. Then, James asked Burden to make him a sandwich. She hesitated but made the food anyway, bringing it to the basement where he was furiously rummaging through boxes in search of their prenup. Finally, he gave up and drove away. Burden and the girls watched television and ate dinner.


Not long later, James texted Burden, exclaiming at what a nice visit he’d had. Burden didn’t respond, unable to reconcile his version of reality with hers. A few weeks later, James emailed her a copy of the prenup that his lawyer had found in storage. Burden felt embarrassed upon seeing her youthful signature on the document.

Part 1 Analysis

Belle Burden’s first-person account employs a retrospective narrative stance as she narrates the end of her marriage to James as it happened and also reflects on her ordeal from the vantage point of several years’ distance. This means that Burden’s tone is lucid and contained, as befits an internalized recollection: She depicts her story using plain language and a steady tone. This calm contrasts with her emotionally fraught story. However, Part 1 highlights the fact that both narrative timeframes share an ongoing lack of understanding of James’s behavior. Her inability to reconcile with the end of her decades-long relationship continues to the day of writing, acting as a throughline for her memoir; penning her story is Burden’s attempt to make sense of what happened and why.


James’s shocking admission and abandonment resulted in Burden’s alienation from herself, introducing the theme of How Betrayal Affects Identity and Perception. In the days following his departure, Burden “felt like [she] had lost [her] mind, like his exit had transformed [her], suddenly, from an intelligent, stable wife and mother to an unhinged lunatic. A madwoman” (15). Burden resorts to antiquated, derogatory terms to describe her detached experience of the self; the words “lunatic” and “madwoman” gesture at a time when understanding of women’s mental health was colored by misogynist bias. Markedly, Burden adopted this self-characterization after James accused her of mental unwellness (having “lost [her] mind” [15]), showing how much his influence pervaded her inner life even after his infidelity.


Burden’s behavior also underscores the disruptive effect of her husband’s departure on her perception of reality. The scene of her making James a sandwich just after the couple told their children they were divorcing and her wistfulness that James couldn’t see the returning ospreys convey Burden’s difficulty to adjusting to the end of her marriage. Although James wronged her, she still acted like a dutiful wife, suggesting that she felt some responsibility for his behavior. Burden initially hesitated when James asked her for food, staring “back at him, shocked” (24), but her internal monologue reveals how difficult it was for her to put aside her domestic role: “Wouldn’t a good mother make their child’s father a sandwich? Wasn’t this how the world said you were supposed to behave in a divorce? Be nice to each other in front of the kids?” (24). This string of questions shows Burden wrestling with cultural scripts for divorced parents in the face of her real pain. Redefining her identity was all the more destabilizing because she was so blindsided.


In detailing James’s betrayal, Burden does not malign him; rather, she describes his behaviors matter-of-factly—a stylistic choice that underscores rather than diminishes James’s unnervingly unemotional reaction to the end of his marriage. The dynamic between them exemplifies Male Entitlement and Domestic Power. Burden admits her infallible trust in James. She loved him as her husband, and she believed he would protect her and her children. After years of letting James guide, direct, and lead her family and personal life, Burden struggled to navigate their power imbalance after their separation. James, meanwhile, displayed no such qualms. The dissolution of the relationship proceeded on his schedule: Hours after asserting that his affair was meaningless, he left his family during a global pandemic without saying goodbye to his children. Despite promising to cede the family’s assets to Burden, he made sure to recover and demand the fulfillment of the prenup. Most damning is James’s lack of interest in or compassion for his children, whose distraught reactions to the news of the divorce he ignored, characterizing the interaction as a nice visit. His ability to dictate the process and deny Burden’s experience of reality conveys how comfortable he was asserting authority over Burden, implying that because he provided for her and the children for so many years, it was his right to treat them however he chose. Burden uses James’s dichotomies to expose the flaws of marriages that abide by traditional models of gendered expectations.

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