The Woman Destroyed

Simone de Beauvoir

The Woman Destroyed

Simone de Beauvoir
40 pages1-hour read
Fiction
Short Story Collection
Adult
Published in 1967

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Content Warning: This section of the guide includes discussion of death by suicide, suicidal ideation and self-harm, gender discrimination, ableism, racism, mental illness, cursing, and emotional abuse.

“A long life filled with laughter, tears, quarrels, embraces, confessions, silences, and sudden impulses of the heart: and yet sometimes it seems that time has not moved by at all. The future still stretches out to infinity.”


(Chapter 1, Page 12)

This passage establishes the narrator’s initial state of contentment and perceived stability in her marriage. The list of experiences that contribute to the narrator’s happiness establish the transgressive nature of the upheaval she is set to experience throughout the story, suggesting that it will be more destructive than any tears or quarrels she has ever shed before. The final sentence reveals her core belief in a limitless future, an optimistic illusion that the story will systematically dismantle.

“Retired: It sounds rather like rejected, tossed onto the scrap heap. The word used to chill my heart.”


(Chapter 1, Page 14)

This line captures the narrator’s initial dread of retirement, equating it with being discarded and useless. The simile comparing retirement to rejection suggests the narrator’s perspective that aging is a condition that is thrust upon someone who has outlived their usefulness. This belies the limitations of her perspective, which equate her personal sense of meaning to utility and function.

“It was I who molded his life. Now I am watching it from outside, a remote spectator. It is the fate common to all mothers; but who has ever found comfort in saying that hers is the common fate?”


(Chapter 1, Page 29)

Here, the narrator articulates the theme of Motherhood as a Limited Source of Self-Fulfillment. Her possessive language (“I who molded his life”) reveals that she views her son as an extension of herself. The final rhetorical question rejects the consolation of shared experience, stressing the intensely personal and isolating nature of her perceived failure.

“I’m not a swine just because I won’t share in your senile obstinacy.”


(Chapter 1, Page 37)

Delivered by Philippe over the telephone, this line is the climax of their conflict and a turning point in the narrator’s self-perception. The word “senile” is a deliberately cruel attack on her age and intellect, two pillars of her identity. The telephone motif is used here to deliver a destructive emotional blow from a distance.

“[W]hen it happens (and it is rare, very rare) that I grow furious with André, it is a hurricane that carries me away thousands of miles from him and from myself, into a desert that is both scorching and freezing cold.”


(Chapter 1, Page 42)

This quote uses meteorological and geographical metaphors (a “hurricane” and a “desert”) to describe the narrator’s rage at André’s deception. The imagery conveys the disorienting and isolating force of her anger. It highlights how a single lie has shattered the perceived transparency and safety of their decades-long relationship, leaving her feeling utterly alone.

“There it was, then: I had spent three years writing a useless book. Not just a failure, like some others, in which in spite of awkwardness and blunders I did open up certain fresh views. Useless. Only fit for burning.”


(Chapter 1, Page 65)

The narrator’s professional identity collapses, mirroring the dissolution of her maternal and spousal roles. The fragmented syntax and blunt, repetitive declarations (“Useless”) reflect her state of shock and self-condemnation. Her conclusion that the book is “Only fit for burning” illustrates the totality of her despair and her belief that her intellectual life is over.

“Ahead there were the horrors of death and farewells: It was false teeth, sciatica, infirmity, intellectual barrenness, loneliness in a strange world that we would no longer understand and that would carry on without us.”


(Chapter 1, Page 85)

This quote provides a raw, unfiltered catalogue of the narrator’s fears about old age. The litany of physical conditions associated with aging (“false teeth, sciatica, infirmity”) uses synecdoche to highlight the physical conditions that come with the experience of aging. Beauvoir is framing the unattractive and despairing conditions of aging to emphasize the narrator’s final abandonment of optimism, replacing it with a bleak vision of physical and intellectual change, as well as social isolation.

“We shall help one another to live through this last adventure, this adventure from which we shall not come back. Will that make it bearable for us? I do not know. Let us hope so. We have no choice in the matter.”


(Chapter 1, Page 85)

The story concludes with a stark, pragmatic acceptance of mortality and decline. The metaphor for old age as a “last adventure” is immediately undercut with dread as the narrator and André acknowledge the inevitability of death at the end of the adventure. The final, uncertain sentences establish a fragile hope rooted in mutual solidarity, acknowledging that their only path forward is together.

“The silly bastards! I drew the curtains they keep the stupid colored lanterns and the fairy lights on the Christmas trees out of the apartment but the noises come in through the walls.”


(Chapter 2, Page 89)

The opening line of this story immediately establishes Murielle’s misanthropic tone and deep alienation. Drawing the curtains is a futile attempt to physically and psychologically separate herself from a world she despises. This introduces the apartment motif in this story, portraying Murielle’s home as a prison where she is tormented by her isolation.

“I was clean straight uncompromising. No cheating: I’ve had that in my bones since I was a child. I can see myself now a quaint little brat in a ragged dress Mama looked after me so badly and the kind lady simpering ‘And so we love our little brother do we?’ And I answered calmly ‘I hate him.’”


(Chapter 2, Page 91)

Murielle constructs her identity around the myth of being an uncompromising truth-teller from childhood. This self-perception as a “proper little woman” who speaks harsh truths justifies her cruelty and alienation of others. It reveals her core narcissism, framing her inability to maintain relationships as a virtue, instead of a character flaw.

“Oh, I don’t hold it against her poor little creep they all put her against me and she was at the age when girls loathe their mothers they call that ambivalence but it’s hatred. There’s another of those truths that make them mad.”


(Chapter 2, Page 96)

Murielle reflects on her daughter, Sylvie, revealing her self-serving logic. By framing the mother-daughter conflict as a universal, hateful “truth,” she absolves herself of any specific wrongdoing in their relationship. This rationalization is a key fallacy that underlines her victim narrative. Beauvoir uses this to critique a possessive form of motherhood that refuses to acknowledge its own potential for toxicity.

“I’m not a racist but don’t give a fuck for Algerians Jews Negroes in just the same way I don’t give a fuck for Chinks Russians Yanks Frenchmen. I don’t give a fuck for humanity what has it ever done for me I ask you.”


(Chapter 2, Page 105)

This outburst reveals Murielle’s deep misanthropy and solipsism, extending beyond her immediate circle to encompass all of humanity. Her declaration, framed with a denial of racism that gets immediately undercut by the use of racist slurs, shows her complete detachment from societal or ethical concerns. Her worldview is entirely self-referential, measuring everything by its utility to her, exposing a core nihilism.

“And here I am with happiness of a forgotten kind given back to me. My freedom makes me twenty years younger. So much so that when I closed the book I began writing just for myself, as I did when I was twenty.”


(Chapter 3, Page 124)

The beginning of the third story establishes the initial premise of Monique rediscovering an identity separate from her roles as wife and mother. The diary itself becomes a symbol of this attempt at self-reclamation. Her feeling of being “twenty years younger” highlights Monique’s primary motivation to reclaim a version of herself that she lost over the course of her marriage and motherhood.

“I must tell myself the truth: I have always wanted the truth and the reason why I have had it is that I desired it. Well, then. Maurice has changed. He has let himself be eaten up by his profession.”


(Chapter 3, Page 129)

This passage is deeply ironic, as Monique’s diary will soon reveal how much she has avoided the truth. Her assertion that she has “always wanted the truth” is a form of self-deception, a key flaw of her character. She initially misattributes Maurice’s distance to his work, demonstrating her obliviousness to the real issues at the heart of their marriage.

“Looking at me steadily he said, ‘Yes, Monique, there is a woman in my life.’”


(Chapter 3, Page 133)

The destructive revelation is delivered with stark simplicity. This single sentence, which serves as the story’s inciting incident, is a turning point that shatters the status quo of Monique’s reality and the foundation of her marriage. The directness of the confession marks the end of her ignorance and the beginning of her personal crisis, forcing her to reassess her identity as a wife.

“The advice of Isabelle and of Miss Lonelyheart’s column—to get your husband back, be cheerful and elegant and go out with him, just the two of you. I don’t have to get him back: I have never lost him.”


(Chapter 3, Page 137)

Monique initially relies on clichéd advice for women, reflecting the societal pressures and prescribed behaviors for dealing with infidelity. Her denial (“I have never lost him,”) is a defense mechanism against the terrifying reality of her situation. This line shows her clinging to the remnants of her identity as a cherished wife.

“Another woman stroking his cheek, as soft as this silk, as warmly gentle as this pullover—that I cannot bear.”


(Chapter 3, Page 143)

This quote demonstrates how domestic objects, once symbols of comfort and intimacy, become sources of torment. The sensory details transform the apartment into a site of psychological pain, as Monique’s suffering is tied to the physical intimacy Maurice now shares with someone else. Her secure world has become alien and hostile.

“I find it absolutely intolerable that he should adopt Noëllie’s scorn for women who ‘do nothing.’”


(Chapter 3, Page 159)

This quote shows Monique’s recognition that Maurice is adopting Noëllie’s worldview, one that devalues her entire existence as a homemaker. Her outrage highlights the clash of values and the way Maurice’s affair is about a fundamental shift in his character and a rejection of their shared past. In this way, Beauvoir critiques the patriarchal institution, which easily substitutes its values for others in order to obtain the things they desire.

“I realized that I had come here in the hope of once more finding that man so hopelessly in love: I had not seen him for years and years, although this memory lies like a transparency over all the visions I have of him. That evening, for the very reason that the surroundings were the same, the old image, coming into contact with a flesh and blood man smoking a cigarette, fell to dust and ashes. I had a shattering revelation: time goes by.”


(Chapter 3, Page 164)

During a trip intended to recapture the past, Monique confronts the irreversible passage of time and the death of their early love. The juxtaposition of her idealized memory with present reality shatters her illusions. This revelation is an important moment where she understands that their love has eroded and cannot be recovered.

“I must look back over the whole of this year again in the light of this discovery—Maurice was going to bed with Noëllie. It is a question of a long-standing relationship.”


(Chapter 3, Page 172)

The discovery that the affair has lasted over a year retroactively poisons Monique’s entire recent past, revealing it as a lie. This moment deepens her crisis, as she realizes her unreliability as a narrator. This self-reflexive critique is simultaneously a moment of burgeoning self-awareness, marking a shift in Monique’s characterization.

“At one moment I said, ‘If you think all this evil of me, how can you still love me?’ And he flung this into my face—‘But I don’t love you anymore. I stopped loving you after the scenes of ten years ago.’”


(Chapter 3, Page 187)

In the climax of their confrontation, Maurice delivers the ultimate blow, rewriting their history and invalidating the last decade of their marriage. This statement undermines Monique’s identity as a beloved wife, revealing the depth of his resentment and the extent of his deception.

“A certain look in his eye two years ago at Mykonos, when he said to me, ‘Do buy yourself a one-piece swimsuit.’ I know—I knew then. A certain amount of fat on my thighs: my stomach no longer completely flat. But I thought he didn’t mind.”


(Chapter 3, Page 191)

This memory highlights Monique’s painful awareness of the impact her physical age has on Maurice’s perception of her. Maurice’s casual comment about a swimsuit becomes a symbol of her loss of desirability in his eyes. It emphasizes the idea that Monique’s value is tied wholly to her youth, which is symptomatic of the wider character perspective that Monique is defined by her relationship to Maurice, rather than defined as an independent person in her own right.

“Yes: throughout these pages I meant what I was writing and I meant the opposite; reading them again I feel completely lost. There are some remarks that make me blush for shame…I have always wanted the truth; and the reason why I have had it is that I desired it. Is it possible to be so mistaken about one’s life as all that?”


(Chapter 3, Page 224)

Monique revisits the opening moments of the story, which reframes a declaration of her commitment to truth as a monument to her naivety. This passage ends with a rhetorical question expressing disbelief. Monique’s self-awareness is contingent on her experience of seeing her character flaws up close, which the diary enables her to do.

“But, Mama, after fifteen years of marriage it is perfectly natural to stop loving one’s wife. It’s the other thing that would be astonishing!”


(Chapter 3, Page 246)

Lucienne’s cynical, detached pronouncement offers no comfort, instead presenting a generational shift in attitude toward love and marriage. Her words reflect a modern, hardened perspective that invalidates Monique’s entire belief system, calling the new perspective “natural” where Monique would have once thought it unthinkable. It emphasizes the idea that Monique’s lifelong commitment to one love has left her vulnerable and outdated.

“I am on the threshold. There is only this door and what is watching behind it. I am afraid. And I cannot call to anyone for help. I am afraid.”


(Chapter 3, Page 254)

The story’s final lines use the motif of the apartment to symbolize Monique’s terrifying future. The closed doors represent the finality of her separation and the unknown, empty life ahead. The repetition of “I am afraid” emphasizes her absolute solitude and terror, leaving her anxious to confront the void of her identity in the wake of losing Maurice for good.

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