Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

1. Which character’s personal growth was most impactful to you, and why?

2. Were there any particular elements or plot points that you found frustrating? Explain.

3. How does this book embody the characteristics of a fairy tale while being modern and relatable?

Encourage readers to connect the book’s themes and characters with their personal experiences.

1. Have you ever made a mistake that you learned to forgive yourself for? How did forgiving yourself help you move on?

2. How has love changed you, for better or for worse? What would you do differently if you could go back and change something about this part of your past?

3. Have you ever struggled with the weight of legacy or expectation? How did you balance that against being your own person?

4. Word games are one of the primary ways in which Hannah and Toby communicate and bond. What activities bring you closer to those you love?

Examine the book’s relevance to societal issues, historical events, or cultural themes.

1. How does the book handle issues like suicidal ideation and substance use disorder? Are these issues explored with sensitivity and depth?

2. Why do Toby and Hannah fight so hard against their “poison trees,” and how does this relate to the idea of intergenerational abuse?

Dive into the book’s structure, characters, themes, and symbolism.

1. Did you find the story’s format (told twice from two perspectives) enjoyable or repetitive? What can be gained from retelling a story from multiple perspectives?

2. Why does Toby compare himself to the lighthouse? What does survival look like in the novel, and how does the lighthouse’s symbolism contribute to that portrayal?

3. How do you understand the novel’s title? Did your understanding change as the story unfolded? If so, how and why?

4. What specific fairy tales did you notice the novel referencing? What function do you think those allusions serve?

Encourage imaginative and creative connections to the book.

1. Imagine that you are Hannah and writing a letter for Avery to open after your death. What would you say about Toby?

2. Create your own word game or palindrome poem that represents Hannah and Toby’s love.